<p>so today in class some chick comes up to me and asks me, "my friend wants to know if your free for winter formal (which is at the end of january)" and so i kind of stutter and end up saying no. what i am worried about is that her friends (who are mostly ugly) asks me to the dance. i talk to "that group of friends" a little bit during class but never outside of school. i am not a fan of school dances and dislike dancing alot. should i say yes or no. if no how could i say it so doesnt sound too mean? she will probably asking me tommorow so i REALLY need your help!</p>
<p>thanks!</p>
<p>I've been in that position several times and have determined that there's no way to get out of it without hurting someone - however, I can guerrantee that it's better to say no sooner than later. Good luck :)</p>
<p>^^^so from what ur saying, i should just say yes?</p>
<p>If you don't want to go, say no.</p>
<p>Duh.</p>
<p>^^^^thank you for such great advice.</p>
<p>It's all the advice you need. </p>
<p>This is not a difficult situation. If a girl I have no interest in asks me out, I say no.</p>
<p>Getting a friend to ask is lame. If she had any sort of spine she'd have asked for herself.</p>
<p>...says the girl who made an utter mockery of herself asking a guy to Winter Ball (and getting turned down) back in 9th grade. Those were the times. :rolleyes:</p>
<p>but if i say no...what r some xcuses for saying no?</p>
<p>You don't need an excuse. If you don't feel attracted to a girl... you just don't. Blame pheromones, if necessary. ;)</p>
<p>I meant in my post that you should say no rather than shrugging her off and "leading her on," so to speak. Don't make excuses, because there's always the possibility that she'll take them at face value and try again later; just say that you're not planning on going to the dance (from your post, I get the impression that you're really not) and that you don't like her in that way, if you know what I mean.</p>
<p>I agree with the above. Don't make up an excuse. Just say no. </p>
<p>It's not an insult that you aren't attracted to her. Everyone is attracted to different people with different attributes (physical and otherwise). Remember, too, it's not an insult if someone isn't attracted to you, either. Always good to remember. :)</p>
<p>Okay, the "mostly ugly" thing is pretty shallow</p>
<p>If you say no, which is fine, be nice, don't take about the girl who asked and be a gentleman</p>
<p>And at the dance, it wouldn't hurt to dance with the girl you said no to</p>
<p>And here is another piece of advice for a dance</p>
<p>If someone asks you to dance to a particular song, and you say, no thanks, which is fine, do not dance that song with anyone else, that is rude</p>
<p>yeah she asked me yesterday. the girl is nice but very unattractive...</p>