I still haven't made any new friends at community college

I started my first year in college since Fall 2015 and I’m currently in my spring semester. For the past six months I still have not made one new friend I can regularly hang out with. It’s weird because from Kindergarten through 12th grade I was able to make at least one new friend. Here I am in college, I feel so alone. I’m taking three classes this semester going to school five days a week and my classmates just show up to class and just leave the school. I’m talking about people my age (18 or 19 year olds), there are grown adults in my class but they have their own lives to deal with (kids, work, etc) which I understand, but I don’t see the whole point of befriending them because they’re at least 15 years older than me. I’ve seen college freshmen hanging out with friends they already knew in high school, so I’m guessing they found their true friends already. For me, I have a only one friend I knew since middle school who goes to the same college with me but he and I never hung out outside of school. I invited him to the gym with me three times because at Planet Fitness I can bring a guest for free but he has work when I have free time and doesn’t seem interested even if both of us has free time. But he has time and fun with his other friends and post photos on Instagram. We never had each other’s phone number ever since 6th grade but I don’t want to ask his because I don’t want to sound desperate and he’ll think I have no friends, and was hoping he would ask for my number. Every time I go to the cafeteria, I end up ending alone. I seen my classmates (freshmen) at a table having a good time chatting, I bet they saw me eating alone but ignored me. No one is willing to talk to me while waiting for class to begin. I tried talking to them but the conversation died within two minutes. Everyone is on their phones text their friends. I really want to go to a four year college where students actually have fun while learning. My high school classmates are having a great time at their university with friends, while I’m stuck here all sad, bored and alone. If I went straight to a four year university, I guarantee that the first friend I will make is my college dorm roommate. My school there was nothing interesting for me to join clubs. Everything I do in school is done alone. (eating,studying,waiting,). My friends from in state universities never calls or text me to hang out. I haven’t seen them graduation which was 8 months ago. I’m really lonely and it’s so boring not having friends to hangout. What is wrong with? All i do is go to school, work, gym, home, do homework and watch TV. I wish I have friends just like that TV Show FRIENDS and How I Met Your Mother. My life is so boring because of this. I literally have no friends in college.Everyone says I’m a nice, cool guy, so what gives? I feel like a loser :frowning:

I’m sorry to hear that you are feeling lonely. Remember that the TV shows you wish you had friends like are just that, TV shows and most people don’t have that sort of life either. It can take work sometimes to find friends, but keep getting out there and trying. You should check again for organizations at your community college. Even if you aren’t an actor, you might enjoy helping out behind the scenes with a theater club. Maybe there’s an outdoor club, or a bowling club, or a club that does community service projects like Habitat for Humanity, or a political club. Consider going to a sporting event and cheering your school’s team on. It can be a lot of fun and you end up talking to people around you when the game gets exciting. Think about something that you can see yourself enjoying doing and seek out how you can be involved. If you still can’t find something on campus, check for clubs in the town your community college is in if you are truly struggling with loneliness. You may still find people your own age to be be friends with in one of those organizations.

I know someone who moved to a new city and met people by participating in “meet-ups.” I’m not at all knowledgeable about them, but it might be something for you to look into to.

At least you go to the gym and work! I’ve looked over our local community college and they have a lot of clubs. Have you looked for a club that interests you? Do you smile at people and look them in the eye? Do you ever get to class a little early and strike up a conversation about something class related with a student your age?

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You don’t need to worry about that and please: don’t compare yourself to that silly and unrealistic TV-Shows! It just takes some time to find new friends, especially when you have a tight schedule… I am pretty sure, that you will find some new friends very soon :wink: Until then, try to involve someone from the gym in a conversation. Maybe there are some nice people, who feel as lonely as you do and need new friends either? :wink:

The reason why I mentioned those TV shows is because I want friends who will be there for me no matter what happens.