<p>Here is my dilemma: I am a first year freshman at a private college, I am wanting to transfer to a community college and then a state school. However, my parents are against the idea. My reasons to transfer are (specifically the state school): the state is school is the best education school in the state (my major is Elementary Education), it is cheaper there (within four years I can save my parents about $15,000), this school also offers me A LOT more opportunities compared to my rural college, with my approximations I can get out in four years easily, there is a lot more social opportunities at this prospective school compared to my current one. Another benefit is that my boyfriend and a few of my friends go there, but that is not the sole reason I want to attend this school. I have friends here and my social life is not crippled at all. The school I am currently at offers me a small university and block scheduling (two to three classes, eight weeks long, so it's like taking six classes at the other universities). I also kind of feel my school is tainted to me now because I had a lot of pressure from my parents to choose this school opposed to the other. Any ideas as to how I can make my parents understand? Do I do it for myself or suck it up for my parents?</p>
<p>I would also like to add that this state school also is great for networking. College is about the education, but also the networking and a career. Which the state school can offer me for being well known, but they also have a teacher career fair, and my current school just does not have the networking capabilities due to the size. Most graduates stay in the area because this area, which I do not plan to do.</p>
<p>Why did you choose the private school to begin with? Why are your parents objecting to the transfer?</p>
<p>IMO, you’ve listed some valid reasons for making a transfer( top school, lower cost, better networking & career opportunities). However, to be honest, in my heart I know that I would not be thrilled if my D told me she was interested in transferring to the same school her BF attends, even if it was the greatest school on earth. Possibly that is what is at root here? In any case, to try to sway them, you could try to objectively state your case while calmly offering logical rebuttals to each of their objections. However, I think this boils down to who is paying for the school. If this is all your parents, they probably get the final say - no matter how persuasive you think the argument is. </p>
<p>I chose a private school because I thought I wanted a small university and it is the only school I found that provides block scheduling (2-3 classes for eight weeks=4-6 classes for sixteen weeks) and I take three classes, setting me ahead, which is nice. Thankfully, I got enough scholarships to get the $26,000 tuition down to $8,000 so it was comparable to the state schools, but because I changed my major I may lose two scholarships (one for $250/2 yrs. and one for $1,000/4 yrs.) I also felt a lot pressure from my family to decide the college I am currently attending (I am the people pleaser type). Since being away from home I have matured a lot and changed my major recently. Now I feel that maybe I did not decide for myself. Also, when I told them I was wanting to change my major we had a huge argument where they said that the private school would be unaffordable and that I would have to transfer, so I went on a school hunt and formulated a new plan, but they then said they thought I should stay at my school and now I am confused as to what to do. I would also like to add the state school was my second choice and I was really torn then as to what school to attend.</p>
<p>Why can’t you transfer directly to the state school without going to CC first as an in-between?</p>
<p>Excuse me, I did not finish my thought on my first reply, this area is kind of a starved area for jobs and people.</p>
<p>I could. However, Iowa has a 2+2 program. With this program, I could get my AA and not worry about direct equivalences for my gen eds, plus I thought it would be a good compromise because it saves money and I could obtain more scholarships for my involvement and/or academic success at the CC for the state school.</p>
<p>Is this all because of your BF? Is he at the cc? What if you two beak up after you moved around?</p>
<p>If I want to, I could list all the reasons in the world here to convince a stranger to be on your side. But if the bottom line is because of the BF then this post is misleading and meaningless </p>
<p>No. My boyfriend is going to the state university. This is not about him. Our relationship has greatly improved due to the distance. I am not worried if I change schools because I feel that is the best option for my future and if he is in it or not, I am not worrying about that now because it is a big school and there is a lot of people there. Recently, I changed my major, when I told my parents before I officially changed majors, they freaked out and said that I had to transfer, but then changed their minds a few days later after I had cried, stressed and researched. I would not have considered transferring at all if that argument hadn’t happened. So now I am in a tough spot. Because if I stay the money will be hanging over my head, I have two younger sisters and an extra $15,000 saved would be nice for my parents, and my parents now feel it is the best option. But if I transfer, then they would not like my choice, but there are so many opportunities both academically and networking that I almost feel I am cheating myself out of. The state school was my second choice in my initial college search. Personally, I felt that my parents kind of pressured me to do the major that I changed and to go this school, that and I am beginning to understand it may not be the place I thought it was. I understand they want the best for me, and I am an independent person, I am afraid I made my college decision for them and not for myself. And now wish I had the opportunities here that I can grasp at the state school.</p>