There will always be people who squander opportunities and fall on their face, unfortunately some need that smash up to learn, they have to do it the hard way. To some extent her parents are responsible and in other ways it is now this young woman’s responsibility.
Our own daughter has only had “duties as assigned,” for chores. Being an accomplished musician starting very young and eventually playing several instruments over and above doing very well in school requires hours of daily practice. We told her we support you, with instruments and music and whatnot, if you quit practicing, you will not gain “free time” but rather chores that we presently don’t expect you to do. She decided that time on her flute, piano, or saxophone was way more fun than scrubbing bathrooms.
Now that she is about to go to school, I have been reminding her how to do this and that so that she doesn’t drive her roommates crazy not doing simple chores because she has never been required to on a regular basis.