<p>So I have been talking to this girl and we are going to prom together. I really enjoy being around her and talking with her. She is just really likeable and when i talk to her i drop my guard. for the last two nights we have talked for 6 hours and three hours, each time until well-past midnight, which she has said she could have never done with anyone else and i really enjoyed the time even if it meant only getting 2 hours of sleep. so last night we were talking and she noticed that lines were being crossed, in the sense that the way were talking went from being friend to much more than that. so i told her i liked her, with her responding that in the two days we really talked i became her best buy friend and that she liked my personality, but, that she wanted things to slowly progress. she said we are going to prom together and said i already have the first step. but why is it always that i end up being the best friend? and what does it mean to "slowly progress"? I want some advice particularly from the girls out there.</p>
<p>I’ve totally got your back brohemio. </p>
<p>The thing with girls is…you treat them bad and they will start liking you because you act “unattainable” and too good for them
If you treat them nice you become “attainable” and they’re not interested.
Girls want what they can’t get.
You’re too nice and you become someone who is a good friend but not someone who is “hot and dating potential”</p>
<p>Lol can you explain your problem I think I know what it is but I wanna make sure since I’m typing on my iPod and it takes forever I wanna make sure I don’t waste timeby typing the wrong thing</p>
<p>advice from my situations: some girls want to take it slow because they want a relationship but is scared of being too attached only to have the relationship end. other girls…well hate to break it to you, but just because you are going to prom with her doesn’t mean you two are dating. which means that she doesn’t have to be “faithful” in the sense that she can still have feelings for another or other guys. charm her slowly, there’s no difference in your relationship with her just because of prom.</p>
<p>well she is not the type to be attracted to the “bad boy” as to her dating record. she says she enjoys talking with me as well its just she wants thing to progress slowly. she just wants things to take time but i’m not quite sure what that means</p>
<p>yeah i knew that about prom</p>
<p>I think I know what you mean actually.
what I suggest is
- Don’t be a jerk cause she’ll lose interest but don’t talk to her as much because you’ll become like a boy friend not a boyfriend
- Act a bit cocky. All the *******s get the ladies in high school. This is cause they have a certain confidence and arrogance.
- This sounds mean but do NOT be there for emotional support. All it does is makes girls think you’re not “taboo”. You want to be “taboo”. You want to be something she knows she can’t get because that will make her want you more.
- Work on the guns. If a high school girl says she doesn’t care about muscle she’s lying. </p>
<p>I know this sounds mean but it is seriously what you have to do. I personally could never do that to a girl and that’s why Ive never really tried to get a girlfriend.</p>
<p>I know you said she’s not attracted to the bad boy. But cockiness is a huge turn on. It shows you are the “alpha male”.
Don’t be a complete ******* but you have to not get too close to her. Then you go from dating potential to friend.</p>
<p>^bad advice, sounds like you ripped that straight out of a low budget romantic comedy</p>
<p>i agree with you reach on the advice, as soon as i read it i knew it could not work for me</p>
<p>I’m not joking that’s seriously what it’s like. If you’re looking for a two to three month relationship that’s what you do</p>
<p>maybe, its just not me and currently i think i have an equal chance by being myself</p>
<p>Ok I realize my posts on this thread make me look like a jerk</p>
<p>Google friend Zone. That’s what I’m talking about</p>
<p>In the end though it’s your girl and you know more about this than us so do what you feel will work</p>
<p>As a girl, I have to tell you, any guy who acted like aluminumboat advised would not get my attention, nor the attention of any girl I know.
The number one thing most girls are attracted to is humor. We fall all over ourselves for a funny guy. If you’re naturally funny, you’ve got it made. Just make her laugh. I mean, it’s not totally as simple as that but she isn’t spending 6 hours on the phone with you because she dislikes you, so you don’t need to do that much.</p>
<p>Be yourself. if she enjoys being/talking with you enough to agree to go to prom with you and talk past midnight, it shows she’s interested in you as you are right now. Keep it up, I understand when she says you are moving it along to fast. Talk, hang out with her whenever SHE wants This is important; you’ve revealed you have feelings for her so you have to be wary of showing yourself as too clingy.</p>
<p>I can say there is one thing a guy should be to win over girls: funny. If you aren’t funny naturally, do silly things. Keep that smile on her face.</p>
<p>she wants to take it slow.</p>
<p>@millincad haha glad we are both on the same page in terms of humor</p>
<p>thats a good thing b/c she has said (and others) that i am funny</p>
<p>Wow, some of the responses in this thread are epic fail.</p>
<p>You’re headed in the right direction. The fact that she doesn’t want to jump right into a relationship doesn’t at all mean that she’s not interested in you; in fact, if she stays up late talking to you for six hours on end then chances are she likes you. She may be on the shyer side of personalities, or she’s just a bit confused with her feelings right now. Don’t pressure her into anything; just enjoy your new closer-than-friends friendship.</p>
<p>Go to prom and have fun. Be yourself and if she likes you the relationship will start itself.</p>
<p>Be yourself is all that you can do.</p>
<p>Are you planning on continuing the relationship beyond high school? If not, I would say go for it, but if you are that close, even the end of a relationship doesn’t have to be the end of a friendship.</p>
<p>thanks secret asian man, thats preety much what i thought, b/c i dont want to push anything, causing me to lose a friend</p>
<p>yeah i think you should be yourself.
have you ever thought that she really DOES want to take it slow?
not all girls are sending out different messages with each word.
you seem like a nice guy, just dont change your personality, because then you might lose her all in all.
it takes time.
and this advice is coming from a girl that doesnt really go for the arrogant jerk type. those guys dont end up lasting. TRUST ME ON THIS ONE.
good luck (:
p.s -humour isnt such a bad idea ;)</p>