Ideas on which schools to consider?

To keep things simple at this stage, in order to draft an initial application list, the list @merc81 cited in #27 can be pretty useful. Most of the ~60 schools on it (including Rice) are competitive for quality and net price for a high-stats, middle income student (~$80K family income) after adjusting for need-based aid.
https://www.usnews.com/education/best-colleges/paying-for-college/articles/2016-09-19/colleges-that-claim-to-meet-full-financial-need

A typical net price at those schools, for that income level, assuming financial assets ~equal to annual family income, and 1 child, might be about $15K-$25K/year. Examples:

$13,700 Colorado College (with $40K home equity)
$17,092 UChicago (apparently doesn’t consider home equity)
$24,050 Harvey Mudd (with $40K home equity)
$25,930 Northwestern (with $40K home equity)

YMMV. Net prices can vary by thousand of dollars depending on travel costs as well as home equity and other factors.

Now, for some of the listed schools, high stats are necessary but not sufficient (and “high” means really high).
Many of the somewhat less selective listed schools are small liberal arts colleges, which IMO are great but not for everyone. Also, many of these schools offer little or no merit aid (or, if they do offer it, would require extremely strong qualifications to get it). For your match and safety schools, it may pay to focus more on schools with relatively low sticker prices or that offer big merit scholarships.

Smith College

It is test-optional with great financial aid

Below are a few test optional (or test “flexible”) schools that claim to cover 100% of demonstrated financial need:

Bates
Bowdoin *
Bryn Mawr (women only) *
Colby *
College of the Holy Cross
Colorado College
Franklin & Marshall *
Hamilton
Middlebury
Mt. Holyoke (women only) *
Smith (women only)
Wake Forest
Wesleyan University *

Sources:
https://www.usnews.com/education/best-colleges/paying-for-college/articles/2016-09-19/colleges-that-claim-to-meet-full-financial-need
https://www.niche.com/colleges/rankings/best-test-optional-colleges/
https://www.usnews.com/education/best-colleges/slideshows/10-top-ranked-colleges-that-are-flexible-with-test-scores?slide=2

Schools marked with an asterix (*) also have been among the top 50 for alumni-earned STEM PhDs per capita
(see table 4 in https://www.nsf.gov/statistics/infbrief/nsf13323/)

Nearly all of these are small, selective liberal arts colleges. All but Wake Forest and Colorado College are concentrated in the Northeast. IMO, the OP’s D would have a realistic shot at these schools (especially if she either raised her scores or used the test optional/flexible policies to her advantage.) Cost-wise, you may or may not be able to do a little better with in-state public university rates or (if the scores go up) with merit scholarships at less selective schools.

An additional list:https://www.■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■/infographics/top-feeders-phd-programs