<p>If you ever have children, can you envision what kind of parent you would be? Strict? Lax? Would you baby your kids? Would you be one of those parents that puts them in dance and piano when they're oh so tiny? Would you pay for their college education? My friends and I were talking about this, and I've concluded that I will have my children involved in things that THEY are interested in, yet I will probably pay only half of their tuition (I'm sure they'll find a way to pay off the rest if they work hard and have the brains). Maybe it's because I'm going to have to find all the money for my college. At least I wouldn't be abandoning my future children...</p>
<p>is that b/c ur parent's are really strict and doing what you dont wanna do? Poor kid.</p>
<p>I am gonna be the only honest person here. We are all smart and want good jobs We will all have time consuming jobs. We will all be a little neglectful of our children, but we can at least make them love us when we fork them over wads of cash. Don't flame me cause you know it's true besides a couple of exceptions..this is CC...we are -holics.</p>
<p>Hopefully I'll be a really nice parent. I won't force my kids into a lot of activities, but I'll pretty much make them play at least 1 sport because I think it's good (for boys especially) to play sports. I'll pay for my kid's HS and college tuitions because I just don't want them to have to worry about loans and whatever. Going to school is difficult and time-consuming enough, especially if they play sports and do other activites, so I don't think they should have to get a job in addition to that</p>
<p>I have zero intention of having kids for they would be a nuisance to my lifestyle of travel, and would bring more responsibility and work. Besides, I would need to be a person with one wife for it to work. I don't want a wife either, for I want no control and no rationalization when it comes to my personal life.</p>
<p>I, as a parent WILL NOT:
-Baby my kids
-Hover over my kids
-Force my kids to do anything
-Be neglectful
-Force them to become doctors/lawyers/engineers
-Force my kids to become typical asian nerds
-Pressure my kids by comparing them to other Asian kids
-Force them to play the piano at the age of 4</p>
<p>I WILL:
-Pay for their full tuition
-Put them thru private school their entire lives
-Support them in anything they want to do
-Take them to Europe every three years
-Give them their own cars at the youngest possible driving age (partly a convienience issue)
-Monetarily ENCOURAGE, not force, my kids to do well in school (no car for grades below C-, dock allowance for grades below B-, raise allowance for grades above A-)
-Give them the opportunity to work for a Hedge Fund at the age of 14 (with me)
-Give them the opportunity to study abroad in Paris in high school
-Allow them to live in the second richest town in America (Greenwich, CT) and give them opportunities like no other
-Allow them to go to Prom in a Helicopter
-Allow them to have their birthday parties in the family yacht (or at the Ritz-Carlton New York or other destination of choice)
-For their sweet 16s, fly them out to Paris (with as many friends as can fit into the family Gulfstream Jet) or other desination of choice for a week, then when they fly back, I'll wait for them at the hangar with their own cars of choice</p>
<p>My kids will be SO SPOILED!!! Anyways....yeah.</p>
<p>You need NOT:</p>
<p>-Think you will great because as an 8th grader, you have no idea what you will be like as a high schooler much less a parent. VERY typical for what you think you want to be like. I think you will do half the things you said you will not and wont do 1/2 the things you said you will. </p>
<p>What kind of job will you have that will allow you to give your kids all these trips and cars and pay for all this stuff for them and STILL be nonneglectful and study with them etc? Don't think so pal.</p>
<p>Who told you I was in the 8th grade? I'm a high school junior, and I know what I'm doing.</p>
<p>What job though???? What job allows all that perfection?</p>
<p>I will never have kids, NEVER!</p>
<p>lol when I read this thread I thought it said, "If you ever became pregnant..."</p>
<p>Why don't you want kids drew? Do you think girls have cooties?</p>
<p>--circle circle dot dot now you've got the cootie shot--</p>
<p>No, I don't like kids and I don't want to be rooted down and have the responsibilities of raising another human being. Kids are simply not for me.</p>
<p>but you do have a brother right? or are you killing off the family?</p>
<p>Oh, okay...</p>
<p>Orange Juice, my parents are strict, but they're not the encouraging kind of strict, if you know what I mean (ie. they're not the kind who push me to do well in school and they're really not in favor of me being involved in anything). I come up with my own motivation. I just don't want my children to grow up cocky and naive with a materialistic outlook on the world.</p>
<p>I would not want to have more people who despise me in my life. I despise myself, and I have a feeling of neutrality towards my parents. If I have a kid I would need to take sides in something else. Leave the work at work and the home at home is what I really want to do.</p>
<p>my parents have a very laissez-faire parenting style. It rocks, I do whatever I want, pretty much. I am never grounded and I learn from my own mistakes.</p>
<p>lol...I plan on being a strict parent. I'm not going to force them to be involved in any extracurricular activities...but if they're not involved in anything when high school rolls around they WILL be working a part-time job. I'll also whip their a$$ if they're disrespectful during their younger years and will ground them when they get older. They will NOT be allowed to move back in the house after college...I'll give them the support and advice they need...but I refuse to baby them and be their friend...I'll pay their college tuition though (and private school tuition if that comes up) </p>
<p>this is EXACTLY how my parents have raised me for the past 18 years and I've turned out great (if I must say so myself lol)...I can't stand parents who try to befriend their children instead of instilling discipline in the household and actually behave like parents</p>
<p>The main reason I don't want kids: "The only thing worth demonstrating is a man's strength"; my main goal is to hide emotion. With kids one must have emotion.</p>
<p>I plan on being very lax and laid-back...strictness only creates more stress. I'd spoil daugthers if I had any, and I'm undecided about public vs. private, but I'd pay for college tution (probably have them cover room and board). I would get them involved in ECs at a young age, but if they decided they didn't like them, they could drop it if they wanted. If I have a son I'd have him skating at 3 and playing hockey at 6 to live out my unfullfilled hopes and dreams (lol this might be a joke, I'm not quite sure yet).</p>
<p>I wouldn't try to be their best friend, parents arent supposed to befriend their children, they're supposed to parent them.</p>
<p>That's about it. Besides this stuff I'd play it by year.</p>