<p>Hey Crazed, I've read your posts and have bitten my tongue until now. To be perfectly frank, I would expect more mature behavior from a parent on these forums. </p>
<p>You are apparently feeling jilted because BU didn't fawn over your child with merit money, brochures, and what not. But to respond to this unrequited love with posting as you have is really odd. The only posts of yours I somewhat understand are the ones in <em>this</em> thread. Here you explain how you feel about your high achieving child being not being offered scholarship money. However, had you taken the time to try to understand why your child did not receive any merit money, you would have found an earlier thread where other worthy candidates found themselves in the same situation. </p>
<p>What troubles me are your "anti-BU" inspired posts, those in which a poster is trying to choose between BU and another school. Here, you rally to support the other school, just because your kid wasn't given a scholarship at BU? </p>
<p>Your son's stats are truly wonderful, and I understand why you are so proud of him. But, since your son didn't really want to go to BU, and viewed it as a "safety," my guess is that that BU sensed that and responded in the lukewarm manner it did. Did your son email a department head inquiring about research opportunities? Answer the "Why BU" essay with a thoughtful, personal perspective on becoming a member of the Boston University community? Visit and sit in on some classes and send thank you notes afterwards? </p>
<p>My guess is no, BU was a safety, so he didn't reach out to BU. So why are you so surprised that BU didn't reach back with $$$$? </p>
<p>My son did reach out to BU, and showed interest in all the ways outlined above. But his hard stats were not as impressive as your son's, nor where they even at the average given on the merit scholarship website. It was a surprise and a thrill when he received two scholarships, including the big ticket, half-tuition University Scholars one that you felt your son deserved. </p>
<p>If you were in the admissions office, who would YOU have offered the scholarship to, your son, with spectacular stats but not really into BU except for the merit money, or my kid, with lesser though great stats, who has demonstrated to BU several times over that he loves BU and would be honored to attend?</p>
<p>BU and Vassar were tied for first choice and my son was accepted to both, but the merit money tipped it to BU. And he will happily attend. IMHO, BU called it right after all. The awarding of merit scholarships isn't as random as I originally thought it was, or as unfair as you think it is. </p>
<p>You apparently had an ax to grind on your son's behalf, and you've spewed your sour grapes all over the forum that "rejected" your son. OK, now that you've gotten that off your chest, it's time to get over it. You're the grown up for goodness sakes! Be an example for how one deals with life's disappointments, and take the high road. To start, I suggest you "kvell" in your son's accomplishments and focus on the school he WILL be attending instead of the school he will not.</p>
<p>Be well and good luck to you and your son.</p>