<p>as far as drugs and drinking, it's totally cool which ever way you prefer. my dorm has tons of partying on the weekend - alcohol and pot are the main substances - but i don't choose to use either of those, and i'm still totally accepted. people will offer you a drink, but if you say no they don't care at all. numerous times my friends have asked me to drink with them, and when i say no, they still insist i join the party. you will have company either way.</p>
<p>i would say about half my friends drink, maybe less, and the ones that do drink don't get drunk every weekend, although there are people that do. while the parties can be fun, the best times i've had have been playing games, watching movies, going out, or staying up all night talking with my friends. don't worry about being accepted if you choose to remain substance-free. then again, don't let this post scare off anyone who wants to drink/smoke/whatever: you will find plenty of company, too.</p>
<p>as far as secluded? not at all. you don't need a car, in fact freshmen can't have cars on campus. i have a bike to get around campus, but i end up walking a lot too because most of my friends do. to get to san francisco or san jose (airports, concerts, etc.) you can take the caltrain - very easy and fairly cheap. there is a station right at the end of palm drive (edge of campus). there is also a free bus system (the Marguerite) that goes around campus in case you don't want to walk. it also goes to the nearest big shopping center where you can find walmart, target, ross, trader joes, radio shack, music/game/video stores, restaurants, etc.</p>
<p>on the attractiveness of the students: i've heard people say we're not great compared to other schools, but i disagree. i did go to a small private school with virtually no options, though, so i guess you have to decide for yourself. i believe there are lots of random hookups, as well as long term relationships :) but again, your sex life is what you make of it</p>