<p>I can understand that for someone who has made such sacrifices as you have for the sake of a better education and quality of life for your children it must be frustrating that your child has chosen a path different to that which you would decide on for her. </p>
<p>We are all products of our environments. What we need and desire, seek and strive for are determined by what we have learnt is important, and the best a person can do is work towards finding a place for themselves in which they can feel that they are doing the best that they can within the moral, ethical, recreational, and financial world that they experience. </p>
<p>Your environment and influences have been very different to your DD's. You have had constraints, and hardships, and been brought up with values from your parents and the society you grew up in, and they have come together to determine your choices and make you the person you are. She has too, but hers have been different -- not surprising given your big move to the States. </p>
<p>She has probably never felt real financial pressure, and might never be under the kinds of economic stress as you have been. With very different experiences of life, so it is not surprising to me that she has chosen her profession by different criteria to yours. No amount of hassling her about the money worries you have and the costs of life are going to change her mind. She does not see her life as taking the same course as yours, and you know what? It's unlikely to. You're different people, but more than that, you have different cultures. It's really common for parents of first generation kids to experience a disconnect from the world they move in, and I think that's what's happening here.</p>
<p>You may never see eye to eye. You might always be a little disappointed, a little hurt, that she hasn't decided on a degree that you think would be best. But I don't think that there is anything you can do to change her mind without pushing her into a life that she will be unhappy with. I have seen many parent-child relationships strained by this kind of situation, and a couple have broken irrevocably. Please keep this in mind. Remember, too, that Environmental Science is likely to be a far more lucrative career than it has been in the past, now that the economic effects of environmental degradation are widely recognised. She may have made an extremely good choice from a financial, as well as personal fulfillment, point of view.</p>
<p>Have you asked her why she's chosen environmental science? Perhaps if you have a deeper understanding of what she is drawn to, it might be easier to deal with the disappointment that you're feeling. Everyone wants the best for their children, and I'm sure that she recognises that and appreciates it. I think that she must be a strong young women to pursue her chosen career despite your objections. This is a good thing! How fortunate she is to have been brought up with such tenacity.</p>