<p>Let me stress this is a serious question. Assuming you are straight, if your roommate were gay, do feel you should be told upon moving in together? Should it matter? Is that private? Do you feel you have some unwritten right to know?</p>
<p>Not to say you do or do not have issues, but would you want your roommate to tell you?</p>
<p>(I realize this thread ran in 2006, but I was curious for a more up to date opinion).</p>
<p>Thats a question i will openly ask him first day. It makes no difference to me but i want to have some sort of knowledge who im living with. I feel as if we has a right the basics about each other and sexual orientation in this day and age isnt a big issue anymore.</p>
<p>The choice of telling a roommate one’s orientation is up to the individual, though someones sexual orientation is a private matter and you should not inquire about it on your own. That said I would still expect to be given a warning that their boyfriend/girlfriend was over (I would ask the same of anyone) in order to avoid a potentially awkward situation.</p>
<p>I feel like that’s the gay roommate’s choice imo. It’s his private business, and whether he’s comfortable or not sharing it with his roommate should be up to him.</p>
<p>ETA: But agreed with Drew. If you’re going to sexile your roommate, whether straight or gay, don’t be a ****** and let them know that you’re bringing someone over.</p>
<p>lol…Is that why my roommate keep asking me this question over and over? It gets so annoying and there one time I said yes. He freaks out and say seriously? It was so funny people nowadays be sensitive about this things. I’m not gay nor anti gay ppl, but why you ask? As long as he doesn’t harass you in a wrong way lol I found most lesbian are pretty hot.</p>
<p>I feel like sexual orientation is a personal matter. If they want to tell you, then that’s their choice. </p>
<p>I personally would be offended if one of the first things my roommate asked me was about my sexual orientation, because I’ve found that it usually indicates some sort of bias.</p>
<p>Dear Jesus…do we really need yet another of the gay roommate threads? </p>
<p>No. Your roommate’s sexuality is not your personal business. It is courteous of him/her to tell you, it would be kind of them to do so, but you are not entitled to that information. Some people are extremely private about their orientation. Regardless of their orientation, odds are it will affect your life exactly none.</p>
<p>As a bisexual dude, I’ll answer this from the perspective of being the “gay roommate.”</p>
<p>I don’t feel like my roommates “deserve,” “should be informed,” or “has the right to know.” My sexual orientation, to me, isn’t a big deal. My orientation constitutes a small percentage of who I am. I have so many more aspects to me instead of just me liking guys. </p>
<p>Realistically, not everyone is comfortable around LGB people. I’m pretty sure there are going to be some responses where people say “yes because I want to get a roommate transfer.” It’s life. When you close so many doors because you’re uncomfortable or scared of something different, you’re also closing off a plethora of possible great friendships. </p>
<p>I’m not going to sit here and pass judgment on those who will say “yes…I don’t want a gay roommate.” All I have to say is that before you shut someone out before even getting to know them, try to get to know them. That’s my two cents.</p>
<p>if you like coming home late at night and walking in on 2 guys doing it to each other then cool…</p>
<p>If your roommate is full on flaming you won’t even need to ask; you’ll know immediately.</p>
<p>Like others have said, one’s sexual orientation is a personal matter. If a potential roommate wanted me to know that he/she was gay, I’m perfectly fine with that. But every closeted person has his or her reasons for remaining so, and I wouldn’t openly ask my roommate that question. It would feel way too invasive, in my opinion.</p>
<p>“if you like coming home late at night and walking in on 2 guys doing it to each other then cool…”</p>
<p>I would be offended by two people of any gender doing it in front of me. I expect some sort of warning, be it a text/tie on the door, etc.</p>
<p>I agree with others who say it is none of your business, therefore, the only way you should find out is if they WANT to tell you. Another problem with asking is that some people may be insecure, thus when you ask, it will make them rather self-conscious. That is something they absolutely do not need when starting out in a new environment attempting to make friends.</p>
<p>^ why are guys such homophobes lol</p>
<p>MODERATORS’S NOTE: Sharon refers to a deleted post.</p>
<p>I don’t if he were gay, but I’d like to know.</p>
<p>“why are guys such homophobes lol”
As a guy I am offended by this stereotype…most of us just tend to be the close minded ignorant jerks that society makes us out to be but some of us aren’t :D</p>
<p>I like to think I’m a guy who’s fairly forward thinking and tolerant. I do have gay acquaintances, but no one I’d call a close friend. If my roommate was gay, I’d probably be okay with it, but I’d appreciate a heads up beforehand.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t care. I mean, it’d be awkward to walk in on him if he had another guy, but not much more than if I walked in on my straight roommate with a girl. I don’t really care.</p>
<p>^Agreed, thats why all I really care about is some prior warning…regardless of orientation.</p>
<p>I don’t think this is a question that should be asked with any expectation of entitlement to a response. Your roommate should be allowed to choose whether or not to tell you, just as you should be allowed to choose whether or not to tell your roommate.</p>
<p>That said, I wholeheartedly agree that telling your roommate when you’re planning to have sex in your room is simply common courtesy, regardless of whether it’s straight, gay, or any other kind of sex.</p>