<p>^I’m sure you’d be hard-pressed to find a university that asked its students about their sexual orientation, so unless you had a severe allergic reaction to gays or something I don’t think you’d have much luck with your request.</p>
<p>To answer the OP’s question, that is not information I would feel entitled to or ever try to obtain. My roommate’s sexuality would be her business and I don’t see why or how it would ever concern me directly. If she was very open about it and/or had a girlfriend who was introduced to me as such–in other words, if it was obvious from the start–I would probably never mention it. If she was more reserved for whatever reason, but the two of us got along well and she volunteered personal info about herself that I wouldn’t normally be privy to, I would thank her for trusting me with it. Beyond that… why does it matter?</p>
<p>Frankly, I think demanding that gay people inform you of their gayness in advance is quite disrespectful. “I’d like a heads-up.” Wow. I’d like a pony and a castle too, but I don’t expect people to give me ****. Your hang-ups are your own problem.</p>
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<p>My thoughts exactly.</p>
<p>I have no right to know my roommate’s sexual orientation. I would hope he could eventually trust me enough to tell me, but it makes no difference to me.</p>
<p>Anyone else get the impression, from reading these threads, that people are expecting their roommates to be secretly gay?</p>
<p>I’m pretty sure that if your roomate is gay and you have a problem with it you can tell the RD or RA’s and get a room change.</p>
<p>Honestly I don’t have a problem with it. However, last year me and my roomate talked a lot those first few days and the subject came up along with a bunch of others it wasn’t a big deal. Neither of us have a problem with gay people. Don’t treat them any different. Would still invite a guy out to chill even if he was gay as long as he was cool to be around. We just both admitted that we weren’t gay and didn’t talk about it again.</p>
<p>Ofcourse I would let my roommate know that I’m straight, its something that I’m proud of! And I would proudly tell him if he asked me about my sexual orientation because he has every right to know. (Assuming my roommate is not telling me because he has no pride in his sexual orientation) In this online forum, most people are very welcoming to gays and would have no problem with rooming with gays however, in reality, most guys have a SERIOUS problem rooming with gays and are even violent towards gays. Now imagine how these homophobic guys would react after months of knowing you and finding out you were gay. Some wouldn’t care and some seriously would break loose. Coming from me, it would be really awkward and I would feel a bit betrayed by not being told earlier but I would get over it because I don’t have a problem with gays, But that’s just me. However, There are MANY guys who are serious homophobes and would be violent and hateful towards their gay roommate for not informing them. You GUYS saying that it is a confidential thing are just putting the gays in a dangerous situation. This very discussion was discussed with an all guys class that I had and I was really shocked to hear all of the violent things that my classmates said they would do if they figured out that their roommate was gay. I don’t even want to describe the things they said they would do if they found out their roommate was having sex with another guy in their dorm.</p>
<p>Now hearing this, many of you would call me homophobic because that’s your number one defense argument but I call it the truth and reality. If every one on this website were like people in the real world, then homosexuality wouldnt be a problem however, in reality, it still is for many people out there. Although people are beginning to accept gays, there are still people out there emphasis on MEN who are hateful towards gays. I’m giving the truth and keeping it real and I’m not sugar coating it. Feel free to flame me!</p>
<p>(Coming from a straight guy point of view)</p>
<p>@mohamed123: First off you seem to be insinuating that you are the only straight guy that has commented so far.
Secondly, yes there are many guys out there that do not like gays but that is precisely why it is not anyone’s business to know if they don’t want to tell you. YOU may be proud that you are straight and willing to share it but that is the accepted “norm” and there is absolutely no repercussions for being straight. So basically the choices of a gay roommate is either: tell the roommate right away and risk discrimination OR not tell the roommate and have him find out and THEN possible face discrimination as well. As for feeling “betrayed” but not being told then I suppose you are very open about your sex life and tell everyone all the details of it right?</p>
<p>i don’t think mohamed123 says he’d feel betrayed if the gay guy didn’t tell him the details of sex… just that he was gay. get yo facts straight fool!</p>
<p>No my facts are straight, a person’s sex life is their own business and they shouldn’t be forced to tell anyone anything…plain and simple.</p>
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Maybe your facts should room with mohamed all we can all avoid any awkwardness.</p>
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<p>Wait what? I thought that massage was innocent!?</p>
<p>Mods are asleep.</p>
<p>Can we just have a ban on gay roommate threads? There have been enough that anyone who actually has a question can go look them up. It’s always just the same old people expressing the same old opinions, and it never goes well. It’s just ridiculous and sad.</p>
<p>If I had a gay roommate I wouldn’t feel awkward or anything-its not like homosexuals hit on everyone of the same gender…
However, if they did hit on me, I would be very flattered. From what I hear, gay men are supposed to be very selective when it comes to potential boyfriends (only a stereotype, not trying to be homophobic)</p>
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<p>QFT. You make a great point. Though I contributed my two cents, you’re always going to have the group that’s okay with it and the group that’s not. That’s NEVER going to change. Accept it for what it is and move on.</p>
<p>It’s been said before: if you don’t want to room with a gay person, that’s your problem, not the problem of every gay person going to your college. This has been discussed ad nauseam, and someone always ends up saying something offensive. A gay person has zero obligation to come out to his/her roommate. People are allowed to have private information about themselves. If you’re that worried about it, change in the bathroom or something. I plan to regardless of my roommate’s orientation.</p>
<p>I really liked my gay roommate. He was clean, could make a decent cocktail, and knew tons of really hot girls.</p>