<p>Let me stress this is a serious question. Assuming you are straight, if your roommate were gay, do feel you should be told upon moving in together? Should it matter? Is that private? Do you feel you have some unwritten right to know?</p>
<p>Not to say you do or do not have issues, but would you want your roommate to tell you?</p>
<p>I believe the the straight student should know before they move in together.</p>
<p>O, it'd be just the odd couple!</p>
<p>Well, I'm gay, and I've heard/read all sorts of conflicting stories about this, from "You should tell them; they have a right to know" to "Who cares, your sexuality doesn't matter, stop flaunting it like a freaking gay pride parade" to everything in between.</p>
<p>Who knows. </p>
<p>Sheesh.</p>
<p>I wouldn't really care if my roommate were gay. But then, I wouldn't really care about rooming with a (straight) guy. As long as you respect boundaries and stuff it shouldn't be a problem.</p>
<p>defintely agree with Aliera. My stand on Gay people is the same; be whatever you want, believe whatever you want, but as long as you respect me, my stuff , and what i beleive in, then it's all good.</p>
<p>my roommate is gay and he told me before we moved in</p>
<p>I would want the gay person to tell me so then I could find a new roommate.</p>
<p>This really isn't a standard question, I think it is a matter of individual comfort level. That is, how do YOU feel about it. Each person would probably feel slightly different.</p>
<p>I think it would be against ones civil liberties to expect to be told the sexual orientation of your roomie. </p>
<p>I have never heard of that. </p>
<p>How should care?</p>
<p>That would be like if you felt you had a moral obligation to be told your roomie was African American or something. </p>
<p>No one has to tell you diddly squat about your roomie with regards to their race, color, creed or sexual orientation.</p>
<p>tripperian35, that's the deal, very few colleges will let you simply swap while you're in the system already. You can count on living with that person for atleast a good month...so then, what's the tension in that room going to be like for a month?</p>
<p>as long as he don't try to touch me it's all good.</p>
<p>My ex-campus had one thing right: they absolutely would NOT switch you because you did not like the race, religion, or sexual orientation of your roommate.</p>
<p>lol good story. So I just moved into the big UIUC and I found a friend of mine from high school. She introduced me to her cousin who is doing the suite dorm thing, with 2 rooms sharin a bathroom. K, well the other room that her cousin is sharing with has a straight guy and a gay.</p>
<p>Well...when cousin went to take shower...two heads popped out of it. Mind you, this was the first morning of school. Lol, kinda weird.</p>
<p>No I think the entire coming out of the closet thing is stupid. Nobody says "Hey I have something tell you.. I'm straight" . So why should you inform people who you sleep with?</p>
<p>So what....?</p>
<p>I wouldn't expect my roommate to tell me their sexual orientation at move-in; that's personal information! However, I would expect them to let me know when they were "expecting visitors", and I would extend the same courtesy to them.</p>
<p>This brings up an interesting question. Obviously, there are plenty of girls who wouldn't want to room with guys - because of the obvious tension/feelings that could possibly arise. The same thing, I believe, holds true with gay guys - I know that gay guys aren't attracted to EVERY guy, but there <em>could</em> be some tension/conflict. Also, some guys are just homophobic or have a problem with homosexuality. Whatever, it's a preference. I would tell my roommate, 'tis all.</p>
<p>Tough question. I don't think the gay guy should be forced to disclose his sexual orientation, but out of courtesy, he should. Unfortunately, there are gay guys out there who will hit on the straight ones. Why exactly? I don't know, and I certainly don't approve. The gay guys might think it's funny, but it's not funny at all when the straight guy is uncomfortable (or pretends to be fine with the situation but is actually not... and just pretending to be nice). Quite frankly, what the gay guy is doing (especially if he persists) is grounds for harassment, and the straight guy shouldn't be afraid to say STOP. If this situation arises between roommates, both should request a room change (in the interest of both parties). Also, I hate to break it to you, but gay guys can be attracted to straight guys. The straight guys are still guys after all, and some of them have powers to confuse even the most advanced gaydars. If the gay guy is attracted to the straight guy, perhaps the straight guy should know (again, this is only being courteous). If either party is uncomfortable about this, the roommates should probably request a room change. That said, in other cases when the gay guy isn't doing or being anything of such ^ nature, I think the straight guy should give the rooming situation a chance, at least get to know his roommate before jumping to conclusions. As many of the previous posters have said, not all gay guys will be attracted to you or hit on you.</p>
<p>I have no idea but here's what I think:</p>
<p>You should tell him you're gay, but not right away.</p>
<p>You want to be known as a person who's gay, not a gay person.</p>