<p>I'm sure all community colleges are different, but the one my kids will be attending as dually-enrolled high school students seems very different from high school. I think the average student is about 26 years old (even with all the high schoolers who take advantage of this program). I get the impression that many people are working and trying to go to school, and paying for classes on their own, all of which make them a lot more serious about their classes than the typical high school student. Missypie's son might find the perfect situation at a local CC: interesting classes, involved students, less busywork (I'm not sure what the HW in CC is like, but I'm hoping it's mostly weekly, not daily, assignments, since that works best for my son), and support from parents since he'd still be living at home.</p>
<p>Sorry if I misunderstood your original post in this thread missypie. When you mentioned deferral of admission to a school, I thought that it meant he would be taking a gap year because I though when you take a deferral, schools typically required that you do not attend any other school. </p>
<p>Now if your target school will allow a deferred admission with a year of a local CC, that would be a great transition plan for him. A year to learn the different mode of college classes before he has to deal with the bigger, less personal 4-year university.</p>
<p>As a mother of a s who has ADD and APD, I would be apprehensive to send him to a 4 year college. Why? He too did not have assistance in High School because after testing he was not severe enough to qualify for an IEP.</p>
<p>Because of the conditions, he has to be "over organized" in order to keep up with the assignments, dates to turn them in, etc. etc. While there is assistance for students with all kinds of learning disabilities at all levels of college, they still won't wake a student up to go to class or call them up to ask if homework is done.</p>
<p>Now, to someone who does not have a student with these issues, this might sound ridiculous, to have to help an 18 year old stay organized, but sometimes if they dont find a way to organize, they become completely frustrated and overwhelmed.</p>
<p>Missypie, has your son been away to a camp for several weeks away from home and if so, how did he cope? If so, did it have an educational componant?</p>
<p>The only real camp has been Boy Scouts where they don't even care if you bathe. He's gone all over the place on choir tours but there are always lots of chaperones to make sure you're where you need to be, wearing the right clothes and bringing the right stuff.</p>
<p>Funny story. Two years ago he went on school choir tour and ended up leaving his utility bag - with all his toiletries including his contacts - behind in the hotel room. But he wasn't the worst of the 4 guys in his room. A roomie had been left in charge of the 3' tall trophy they had won and he left THAT behind in the room!</p>
<p>That's funny! :)....yes, boys will be boys, but college can be a huge stress to a young adult who does not have that kind of constant guidance and supervision. S2 that I speak of, had a complete meltdown last week (3rd week at a CC)because he was completely overwhelmed with 13 credit hours of course work, a job and a social schedule. Fortunately, he still lives at home and without being a "helicopter parent", I am trying to steer him to success. He is only trying to complete a 1 year certificate program and it is overwhelming him! </p>
<p>I cannot and will not wake him to go to class, do his homework or even remind him of doing homework. </p>
<p>I cannot get his uniform ready for him for work or school or do his laundry for him, because out in the real world, nobody will do it for him.</p>
<p>I am not sure how to figure out whether or not a student will function in a college situation, but I am sure that you will work out what is best for your boy.</p>