I'm getting scared... Need a little assistance.

Chance Me / Match Me!
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<p>I was thinking to myself about who I can speak to about this whole college situation I am going through, but I thought of no other place but here. So I hope you can help me out a bit. </p>

<p>I'm 19, and I barely finished my first semester at Emmanuel College in Boston due to some severe mental illnesses such as depression, anxiety, and I was recently diagnosed with ADD which they said had probably hurt me most of my life, but they never really noticed it from the outside. I made decent marks in school... My GPA at the end of my school year was 3.0 which is a B and I'm happy about that. I just didn't do so well in College AT ALL. I tried applying to UMASS Amherst in Amherst, Mass., and was rejected due to their over abundance of students going there... There is a LOT of students getting rejected with perfect marks from there, however; it's just too crowded. I feel at a loss now and I'm really really trying to overcome my issues, which have been dealt with by a therapist and medication. It has been my dream to go to a college and be happy about where I'm living, but being in the whole "mental block" only makes me more depressed to know that I threw away my chance of being at a school. I just need to know if there is still a chance that I could get into a school in the New England area at this moment in time, which is Mid-May. I know it's late, but again, i've been pretty flustered with everything that has been going on. I really want to try to get into a decent school with a residence life. I know right now my chances are slim because what happened, but It really isn't my fault. Anyway, I'll post a simple list of what I did in High School and my GROSS SAT scores... Please help me with possibly advertising a couple of schools that I have decent chances in getting in at. Thank you very much, and I really appreciate you reading this. I really do. </p>

<p>SAT - (990) Math- 450 Verbal- 540<br>
SAT (Again) (940) Math- 500 Verbal- 440 (ouch)</p>

<p>GPA In High School: 3.0</p>

<p>::EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES w/ Grades Involved :: </p>

<p>Int’l Thespian Honor Society 12
Drama Club 10-11
Class of 2005 Vice President 10
Student Council 11-12
Multi-Cultural Club 11-12
T.O.A.D.s (Teens Organized Against Drugs) 9-10-11-12
Yearbook Committee 11-12
Prom Committee (Jr. Year Only) 11
Peer Counseling 11-12</p>

<p>::PERFORMING ARTS::</p>

<p>Fall Production 10-11-12
Performing Arts Workshop 11-12
Class Play Competitions 9-10-11-12</p>

<p>::LEADERSHIP POSITIONS::</p>

<p>Multi-Cultural Club Treasurer 11-12
Intl’ Thespian Society President 12
Yearbook Editor 12
T.O.A.D.s Communications Officer 11-12
Class Vice President 10
Class Representative 11-12</p>

<p>::VOLUNTEER WORK::</p>

<p>Senior Citizen Annual Christmas Party:</p>

<p>The Student Council hosts the annual Christmas party for the local Seniors Center one day during the week of Christmas. To prepare, we rehearsed Christmas carols as well as our traditional skit, and made home baked deserts. During our party, we served a beautiful turkey dinner with all the trimmings and then entertained them with our skit and rehearsed Christmas carols. It’s always a huge hit.</p>

<p>Community Reading Day: </p>

<p>Each year our elementary school hosts a yearly Community Reading Day. I was one of the selected to pick books and read to a class during the school day.</p>

<p>Spring/Fall Coffee House: </p>

<p>A small group within the high school gets together to plan out this seasonal talent show with a coffee house feel. I was responsible for set up, clean up, and assistance of both emcee’s hosting the show. </p>

<p>School Store:</p>

<p>Responsible for stocking/restocking, ordering products, and selling of the school store products. I also was responsible in the upkeep of the store.</p>

<p>Concession Stand:</p>

<p>During football games I assisted at the concession stand before and after half time of each game. It was hard work, but during downtime it had the best seats to watch the game. </p>

<p>Mock Car Accident: </p>

<p>Every year during the week before our Jr./Sr. Prom, a group of students, including myself, joined forces with the local police station as well as our local firestation and created a life-like car accident in the student parking lot to help spread awareness of drunk driving, which deemed useful for prom. </p>

<p>Big Brother/Big Sister Program:</p>

<p>Linked with our Peer Counseling program at the high school, a selected group of high school students are paired with a student from our middle school who had requested a mentor. We make sure to have weekly meetings with our little brother or sister to talk about their issues with school and issues outside of school. We are there to help them feel more comfortable with themselves and to provide them with an outlet to go to for help during their difficult times. </p>

<p>New Student Orientation:</p>

<p>The day before school begins after the summer vacation, I assisted with the Peer Counselors in high school/middle school tours. We planned ice breakers for the new students to feel welcome and less tense, as well as a newly created slide-show.</p>

<p>Weetabix: </p>

<p>I have taken it upon myself to assist a friend in need of an extra hand. With taking care of his family, as well as himself, I assist in the janitorial duties around the offices, freeing time for my friend. I have been helping him since the summer of 2005 and have been helping him to present year 2006.</p>

<p>::FOREIGN LANGUAGES:: </p>

<p>Spanish 4 yrs.</p>

<p>Italian 1 yr.</p>

<p>::INTERNSHIPS::</p>

<p>WSRS/WTAG Radio, Paxton, Mass. </p>

<p>::SUMMER JOBS & ACTIVITIES::</p>

<p>Davis’ Farmland and Mega-Maze - Spring/Summer 2004</p>

<p>American Eagle Outfitters - Spring/Summer 2005</p>

<p>Weetabix - Volunteer - Summer 2005</p>

<p>CYC Volleyball- St. Johns Church - Summer 2005</p>

<p>Went Abroad to Italy, France & Monaco during April Vacation 2005.</p>

<p>::AWARDS:: </p>

<p>Most School Spirited - All Four Years of H.S.</p>

<p>Consistent Effort in Spanish</p>

<p>Excellent Characterizations in Drama</p>

<p>Inducted into the Intl’ Thespian Society as a charter member</p>

<p>Accepted by the Student Council to attend MASC (Massachusetts Association of Student Councils), a three day event in Hyannis, Cape Cod that encourages leadership, motivation, and dedication. </p>

<p>SORRY SO LONG! Thanks Again!</p>

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<p>My advice is to not make a hasty decision about switching schools. Because you've had recent problems with depression and anxiety, this is not a good time to make a big change in your life. You will be in a better position to make a good decision if you make sure that your emotional problems are solved.</p>

<p>One things that you didn't address: Can you go back to Emmanuel? Even if you didn't do well there, with documented mental health problems, they probably will give you another chance. Even if you didn't like Emmanuel before, that may have been due to your depression/anxiety, not because the college is not a good fit for you.</p>

<p>I suggest that you talk with your therapist about options. If you have stopped seeing your therapist, go back so that you can get the best advice possible on your situation. Caring as people are on CC's board, none of us knows you and your situation well enough to give you the kind of good advice that your therapist should be able to do.</p>

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<p>have you thought about taking a medical leave of absence for the fall semester, take care of yourself, and transfer into another college for the spring semester? it would buy you some time rather than make a hasty decision. you can use the time off not only to get things back to 'normal,' but also to work/travel/volunteer somewhere that would be meaningful.</p>

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<p>well I've been off this whole semester... and I didn't do much academically besides getting better mentally. I'm being put on meds and everything seems like it's in the clear for me to go back to school. I just really need some help figuring out which schools will be kind enough to hear my story and possibly admit me. I really feel like i've been cheated by my mental handicap, and that there is no possible way for me to get back to where I started which is very upsetting. I would really appreciate suggestions or maybe advice if you know someone, or if it was yourself that went through it. Thanks again. I have to go, but please reply back!</p>

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<p>Can you return toEmmanuel? Since you have a documented medical problem that caused your grade problems, won't Emamanuel let you stay? Even if they won't, I don't suggest making a hasty decision to choose a transfer college at the last minute. Your options are very limited now, and you wouldn't want to jump into a college that you may not like. If you can't go back to Emmanuel, then my suggestion is to take more time off and then carefully make a transfer decision.</p>

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<p>I just feel like I've taken too much time off... I'm not sure about Emmanuel as I have withdrawn at the end of the semester... I'm not sure if they would let me back in... Ugh. It's just so frustrating... I feel like I'll never get back into college...</p>

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<p>I'm going to email Emmanuel in the morning. I wonder what they are going to have to say. If it doesn't work out, I'll have to go with plan B which hasn't been figured out yet. I think right now, with what I'm planning on doing self-help wise, school will be fine for me.</p>

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<p>Is there anyone you can talk to>
Does Emmanuel have an office of Disability Services?
A counsling center?</p>

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<p>If you can meet with someone in person or at least talk with them over the phone, that will boost your chances more than sending an e-mail. I would guess that the person whom you need to contact is the dean of students.</p>

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<p>Ok I'll give it a shot. I'm just afraid that they will turn me down because of the fact that I already withdrew from the school.</p>

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<p>I feel for you. My sister went through very similar problems and is finally getting back into school this summer (after a 1 1/2 year absense).</p>

<p>Do you know what you want to major in yet? My sister found that with her mental illnesses and newly diagnosed ADD (she was diagnosed in college as well) that she truly wouldn't be able to perform to her ability until she absolutely knew what she wanted to do with her life (since it's obviously harder to concentrate on school work with ADD). This is why she took the time off, to work full time and figure it all out. She now will be starting at the local communtiy college to work towards her RN and then transfer back to her old school to complete her BSN (her university requires all BSN candidates have their RN before enrolling).</p>

<p>Is there a local university or community college near your parents home that you can enroll in part-time to figure things out and have a support-net in case you have a relapse (my sister has had many relapses in the past 5 years)? </p>

<p>We are here for you! If you want or need anymore support, feel free to PM.</p>

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<p>Thanks Ophiolite, it helps to hear of others who are or who were going through the same situation as myself. You know, what you said will encourage me to look further in what I want to be in the future. I think your right when you say you need to know what you want to do or be in life in order to focus, because in reality there are so many possiblities out there which only makes me more overwhelmed. I'm definitely going to do some thinking. I went to a local community college, however; I did not go to a majority of my classes which gave me a 0 g.p.a. for the spring semester there. I'm afraid that if I continue there it will only be harder for me to bring it up? I started out very naive about college, if you can tell? Anyway, I've been ready to make something of myself, instead of sitting around and moping about life and how inconvenient it can be. I gave my self 2 options. The first is being lazy and sad and NOT exceeding and only becoming unhappier. The second is putting one step in front of the other and working for something that I know will make me happy. The second option will require work, but I have been preparing myself for this... I'm proud of myself for coming this far from where I was when I left Emmanuel, and now I just need to get back to the swing of things and be a college student... the right way. If there is a right way. Anyway. I'm thankful for all of your advice and help. It's much appreciated and I hope that there is a door open somewhere for me. I'll be checking back a lot to see if anyone has written anything. Thanks again all of you! :D</p>