Hello. I’m a senior in hs. Since the beginning of this senior year, I have been seriously hating everything , school, people, friends, teachers, my classes. Not in a bad way that I want to harm others but I just don’t like them. I’m very introverted and find that socializing really drains my energy.
There’s also this ’ what should I do next ’ and ’ what do i want to do’ question which is always hunting me. I told my family that I want to be a doctor cuz i kind of like human body but there is also this pressure from my parents that they want me to be one. My parents hv always wanted one of their kids to be a doctor but none of my other sigbpings are gonna be one. They are always old and had me when they were in their 40s. I really loves my parents and want to fulfill their wish but I’m not sure if I want to be one or if I can be one.
I also live in a different country than my mom and she has been really sacrificing everything for me and my siblings. She has poor health and has always been sacrificing everything and this makes me really sad. I really hate that I can’t give my time to her. There’s this thought that what if I can’t fulfill her and my dad’s wish, what if I lose them while taking too long to be a doctor.
i also have all other problems I can’t tell and all these messes have been in my had for almost 1 or 2 years now.
Thank you so much if you read all this or even just opened this thread. I seriously don’t know why I’m even posting this. I cried while writing this and this has made me feeling a little better.
One question is whether this long term unhappiness will result in depression. Right now, I find everything sad and nothing is interesting. I can’t make myself happy.
I know everybody has problems. But I just needed some place to say what I have been feeling.
Please tell me any tips to feel better. Thank you.
Sounds to me that there might be some depression…or just some regular “missing your mom” and “trying to figure out what to do” and “Immigrant parent pressure” going on.
If your HS has guidance counselors or a school psychiatrist, that would be the easiest way to talk an adult about this.
Remember that for pre-med you can major in anything…so figure out what you are interested in…could be Biology, Chemistry…but could be Psychology or Math or Engineering…and then also take the premed classes if you are still interested. Do remember that you have to live your live for yourself…generally parents want their kids to be successful but that success can be what you want.
Ok I hear you out but socializing is legit the best thing you can do for yourself. Try to forge better friendships with the people you already associate with. Go to Prom. If there is anyone you like take a chance and ask them out to a date. As far as your other issues they’re unfortunate but we can’t control everything. And do what you really want to do. Many parents suggest doctor as a path but I’m sure they would love whatever you choose to do. If you told them this career is what makes me happy I wouldn’t think they’d refute it or be upset. Stay true to yourself and focus on being the best you can be. And make sure you have fun.
Hey man there’s times I’ve felt I was going crazy too, but I think it’s just over working myself. Don’t let it get to you. High school is only 4 years of your life and there’s always chance to turn things around. It’s not about where you go to school, it’s your drive. As long as you have a carrot at the end of the road, nothing can stop you. Many kids on these forums break their backs trying to get into schools that “guarantee” a fortune / great education / opportunities / etc, and while that may be true, it’s doesn’t guarantee happiness. I know engineers / doctors who went to obscure schools who work with people who went to Harvard / MIT and earn the same - if you’re concerned with money.
The thing is, you have to find what makes you happy and become the best at it. Help others find happiness and you will find yourself laughing with joy. Find what makes you get up in the morning. Experiment with every club, say hi to people, smile, be healthy, be productive. The universe will return your favor eventually. I promise.
As for the school thing. If you didn’t do well in the first part, then there’s nothing you can do about that. You can’t change it, but you can change the course of the future. Steve Jobs chose to drop out of Reed College. What if he just sat around doing nothing? We wouldn’t have Apple. I wouldn’t be typing on a Mac. You always have a chance to fix your mistakes. Maybe go to a state college? If your grades are absolutely terrible, then try whatever you can to fix them - it will be a difficult path, but you brought that upon yourself.
I suggest talking to a psychologist, your siblings, a trusted teacher, your parents, or try to make a friend at school that will help you - complete isolation is not good for humans.
hi, it sounds like you might be developing depression or in any case you are unhappy, which i would expect from someone with the problems you have mentioned. i agree with @Fauxgaffe , try to find the little things that make you happy. i understand your parents want you to be a doctor and i feel like i lot of immigrant parents (and not immigrant!) have this viewpoint because it is a prestigious and lucrative career. but if you wont be happy as a doctor, don’t do it- your mental health and contentment with your life and choices comes above all else in your career. as long as you keep being self aware and stay motivated, you will do fine in whatever you choose. like other posters have suggested, please speak to a psychologist or trusted teacher/school counselor if you continue to feel apathetic, depressed, and uninterested in your daily life. speaking as someone who has experienced depression and anxiety, it is not time you will get back and i wish i would have talked to people about how i felt a lot sooner. even posting online like this or talking to your friends and family can help a lot. best of luck, and my PMs are open if you ever need to talk!
