I'm Just Really Sad :(

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>I just graduated from high school. I'm going to the college of my dreams next fall but for some reason, I've never been so depressed. </p>

<p>My parents aren't going to support me much in college so I had to get a job this summer to start saving up. I've been working a ton in order to get as much cash as possible, but this has put a major damper on my social life. Whenever I DO hang out with my friends, I feel out of the loop. My two best friends in the entire world have gotten a job together and have therefore become very close, which makes me feel even more left out. Another reason I am left out is because I have recently become a health freak. I've struggled with my body image for some time and this summer I have devouted all my extra time to working out and eating right. I feel like I can't ever hang out with my friends because all they want to do is go to the beach but I am too self conscious to be seen in a swim suit. </p>

<p>So basically I am lonely and stressed from constantly being on the go. Then it gets worse. My best friend has always been my partner in crime. We're both pretty attractive girls but have mananged to have absolutely no luck with relationships. We both grieve together about our sad romantic life...but tonight she tells me that she has been talking for a boy that she used to hang out with and he proposed that they become a couple. I am happy for her but this pretty much broke me heart. Here I am working my hardest to build my self esteem and all comes crashing down as I realize that I ALONE have been unfortunate enough to never have a boyfriend. I'm not ugly. Or fat or stupid. I am usually very well liked and am actually pretty popular at school. But for some reason no one seems to be interested in me. And I'm just so depressed. Not because I like someone and he doesn't like me back. I just feel so lonely and now I feel like I have no one to talk to and I won't be able to meet new people because all I do is work and exercise. </p>

<p>What am I supposed to do? I know I will be leaving for college soon, but what if it is the same there? I just don't get it :(</p>

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<p>First of all, congrats to you for getting into the college of your dreams. Second, congrats again on being so mature and independent about working to pay for it.
Third. It's going to get better. I know it's hard to see now, but 18 is so very young -- you have so many years ahead of you, and so much time to meet boys, (all kinds of boys! nice ones, jerky ones, all kinds!) It will happen. Just think for a second: almost everyone on this earth does wind up part of a couple eventually, including people who are NOT attractive or ususally well-liked. For you, it's just a matter of luck, opportunity, and most of all of time. If you can just put your head down and try to get through this summer of working and working out, things will look up. Really.</p>

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<p>At certain points in life you are forced to do some growing up and the transition takes some getting used to. And, I'd bet anything someone had a crush on you and never told you. There was a girl I had a crush on in HS but she was way too good for me and out of my league so I never pursued it. Now, 5 years later, she moved to the coast but we are penpals and write each other quit often. Things never turn out how you think they will.</p>

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<p>Yeah, things are probably (or may just seem) bad now. Once you get into college it will be all new and you'll start fresh and things will be better.</p>

<p>So I've heard...</p>