I'm making an effort, but I still don't have friends

[wxmann]

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Yes it is irrational, because you are afraid of a situation in which there is no threat to harm you. It is a no-lose situation: either you have a new friend or you stay as you are.
Everything to gain, nothing to lose.</p>

<p>Realizing the fear is irrational and there is NO ACTUAL THREAT (only PERCEIVED danger) is the first step. </p>

<p>Then you can take action in spite of the fear, knowing that its not real.
After you approach people, you will realize “nothing bad happened”, you weren’t vaporized to the ground or eaten alive or punched in the face.</p>

<p>You will be asking yourself, “Is this what I was afraid of?”

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<p>Except… its not fear. Its just unwillingness. As I stated earlier I hate forced social situations. Its just awkward and uncomfortable for me and I prefer to just be with myself.</p>