<p>Hello everyone,</p>
<p>I'm sure there's a million threads like this, but this is my version of the common problem of not being happy at college.</p>
<p>First a little about me. I am a nineteen year old male freshman at Cal State Northridge. I live in the on-campus apartments and have 3 roommates.</p>
<p>I'm just not happy in college. I'm a very quiet person and have never been very good at making friends. In high school I only had a small handful of friends, and even though we were friends, we rarely hung out or did anything together. I spent most of my senior year weekends at UCSB hanging out with my older sister and her friends (who are all out of college now). </p>
<p>Then I came to CSUN fall 2013. At first everything seemed like it would be alright. The first night my roommates (who I just met that day) went to a party and it was fun. But a few days in, I realized I had nothing in common with my roommates. They'd go hang out with friends they went to highschool with who also went to CSUN. None of my highschool friends went to college.</p>
<p>I started feeling really lonely until rush week, when I figured joining a fraternity would be a good way to make friends. I really wanted to get into a particular one because I had met them and that first party, got along with almost all of them, and had a friend who was already in it. I was really excited. When I didn't get a bid to join, because one brother voted against me, I was really depressed for the next few weeks. </p>
<p>I spent most of the rest of the semester coming home on weekends (I live fairly close to campus). I'd eat in the dining hall by myself almost everynight. </p>
<p>Now winter break is over and I moved back to my apartment today. Spring semester starts tomorrow. While my roommates are all out with their friends, I'm lying on my bed typing this and watching Pawn Stars. </p>
<p>For whatever reason I'm a really quiet person and people don't like me. I've never had many friends and at this point in the year I feel like everyone already has their new group of friends but me. My roommates are talking about rooming together next year but haven't invited me (we get along, just don't have a lot in common). Now I'm faced with either commuting next semester (which wont make me friends) or rooming with strangers which seems weird as a sophomore. </p>
<p>Plus my roommates are always talking about getting girls and getting laid. I'm even worse at getting girls than I am at making friends. I'm 19 years old, have had one girlfriend for 2 weeks in eight grade, and have never even kissed a girl, let alone have sex. How do I deal with that?</p>
<p>Sorry for the long post. Thanks for reading. I just had to tell someone all this. Any replies, comments, questions, answers, concerns, advice, etc welcome. Thanks.</p>