I'm shy. Is it hard to make friends?

<p>I've always been shy. I'm hoping to expand my social horizons in college. Will it be difficult to make friends there? I'm not smelly, geeky, and I'm relatively attractive.</p>

<p>typically, it’s as difficult as you make it. BE gregarious, BE sociable, and BE extraverted if you want to meet some people, get the most out of college, and get out of your comfort zone. </p>

<p>But if you want to be a recluse just be reclusive. easy as pie.</p>

<p>“BE extraverted”</p>

<p>You make it sound like a personality type can easily be changed.</p>

<p>I think he means that you should be BOLD and put yourself out there, stepping out of your comfort zone. I agree :). I have yet to do that, however…</p>

<p>If you aren’t smelly… and you aren’t geeky… and you’re relatively attractive… then why are you so shy? Maybe you should ask yourself that question. I’ve been trying to figure it out for myself for a while now, and I think I’m starting to get a grasp on it. I feel like figuring it out is helping me build the confidence I need.</p>

<p>I agree with the whole “get out of your comfort zone” statement a few posts above.</p>

<p>I’m a bit timid when it comes to interacting with people. I find that in college I’ve come across so many friendly people, though. When someone comes up to you and strike a conversation, reciprocate! If they invited you anywhere to go – whether it be to go study at the library or eat at the dining hall or something – do it! </p>

<p>Most of the time people would suggest “joining a club”. But from personal experience, unless you have an officer position or find yourself in a club with a small membership, I’ve found it a bit difficult to make friends (especially if you are the introvert type like me). </p>

<p>I find it easier to befriend people in your classes (especially if it is small). Develop study groups. Work on homework after class. Complain to each other about how the teacher sucks. These kind of things bring people together =)</p>

<p>Actually, most of the people I know here in college now is due to the fact that I was in their class or because they were in my dorm freshman year (you know those silly floor activities that your RA plans? Go to them. You might make a friend or two.)</p>

<p>look at it this way: if you don’t talk to other people, why should other people talk to you?</p>

<p>if you talk to other people and are nice, you should make friends.</p>

<p>or think it this way, if you don’t put yourself out there, how will you actually take yourself somewhere in life?</p>

<p>it isn’t as hard as you think. as taylor swift’s album is titled, be FEARLESS. (:</p>

<p>well it depends on shy !
an outter state colleqe yeahhhh i would be!
andd i know what you sayinq .</p>

<p>bro I’m the same I’m shy and I’m a very introvert person, but you will meet people. People will approach to you in classes, or in the dining hall. One tip don’t be nervous and be you, they will make conversations, and that how you become friends with that person.</p>

<p>Depends where you go.
I’ve heard Community Colleges tend to have less outgoing and friendly.
If you live on Campus anywhere, it should be fairly easy to find friends.
I have a lot of friends and most of the time I study in my room.</p>

<p>It’s easy, just introduce yourself to the people you sit near class.
You can ask for clarification on a homework assignment or something you don’t understand in the class.
Soon, you’ll find that he/she will also be more open with you and might ask for your help later as well.
And bam, before you know it you find that both of you have some similar interests and you become friends.
…or even without common interests you can still at least be friendly with each other.</p>

<p>If you live in a dorm, leave your door open so that you can meet people who pass by.
Try to be friends with your dorm mate also of course.</p>

<p>Clubs are also a great way to meet new people, and one of the best for people who don’t dorm.</p>

<p>Oh, also use facebook so you can build a friendship with ppl that you happen to meet but don’t know too well yet.</p>

<p>Last, you probably know at least one person from your high school that’s going to your new college.
Hang out with him/her and his/her friends for a while (don’t if you don’t like the guy/girl tho).</p>

<p>lol to the post above about having at least one friend from my HS at my college.</p>

<p>The colleges im applying for have NEVER seen an application from North Dakota, hehe, I know, im an anomaly. But besides my rare case, you just may have a friend at college.</p>

<p>Making friends in class is not easy. Making friends in dorms is easier. But for the first few weeks, you just have to constantly put yourself out there, invite yourself to activities, and meet people. It’ll be hard for someone who is shy, but you just have to do it.</p>

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<p>How the hell do you know that? I guarantee you at least one random kid has applied to wherever you are referring too from North Dakota.</p>