I'm so confused in my college search, I feel like giving up.

<p>Okay, I've been at my college search for a VERY long time now and I just can't get it down. My indecisiveness is killing me. I can't pick which college I want to go to - because I have no frickin' idea how to pick "the right college" for myself. And yes, I've read ALL the threads explaining, but it hasn't helped. My mindset is "Yeah, I pick ___ , but what if I have a better experience at ___ ." I don't want to end up like the people who end straight up hating college. </p>

<p>And, I am looking to CC to help me. I'm so desperate. I sound like a loser D:</p>

<p>I live with both parents in Southern California, but they were never married. Who files the financial aid papers? If both combined, around 60-70k income. If only my father (supports me financially the most) it'll be around 40-45k. My family can afford.. about close to nothing. With that said, I guess I'll be paying for college myself.</p>

<p>The kind of school I'm looking for is :
-In a big city, or near one.
-Great study aboard programs
-Myriad of opportunities (internships, excellent honors program, etc.)
-Excellent financial aid & scholarships
-Good reputation - I know this seems a bit stupid, but I mean as a good reputation as when you're applying for an internship or job, they'll know I've been well-prepared for said job.</p>

<p>And, I was wondering, is it a bad idea to go to an Undergrad. Business School, majoring in Finance, then go to Law School and get a J.D. / MBA degree? I sort of want to go that route because Business and Law are my favorite subjects. And, I just want something to fall back on if things don't go as planned being a lawyer.</p>

<p>I don't want to seem pretentious - that's the last thing I want right now. I just want to go to a college that I would adore. I've been looking forward to this moment since forever and I just don't want to mess it up.</p>

<p>So, please help. I'm, obviously, desperate as can be. >.<</p>

<p>P.S. I didn't put up my stats. I just want to know which colleges, then do my research, then pick.</p>

<p>You sound a lot like my daughter. Every time I think the college list is solidifying she comes up with new ones. Yesterday she searched every college in America that offers a linguistics degree and organized them according to safety, match and reach! Of course, there are MANY colleges that we had never considered that all of a sudden we might be. She has also zeroed in on the colleges that change lives list.</p>

<p>When she first started to look she was focused on dream schools - like really hard to get in schools even with good stats. Then reality arrived and she and I searched for schools with good financial aide (which is something you said you would like) This was done without real regard to major.</p>

<p>Now she is focusing on colleges that offer merit scholarships and have her major and are in certain geographic areas. I don’t know what your stats are but hers are 4.0 cumulative GPA -unweighted, they don’t weight at her school an a 28 act very lopsided with English high and math just a 24. She is taking it again though…:slight_smile: Some schools that are on her list are
our state flagships - Ohio State,
Ohio University (safety),
College of Wooster,
Wittenberg,
Hiram, Ohio Wesleyan,
American,
St. Lawrence
Miami Ohio
Heidelberg
Her latest considerations include
Lycoming (offers huge merit to kids ranked 1st or 2nd end of jr year - she is ranked #1 right now so that is very exciting to us!)
Whitman
Goucher,
Guilford
Beloit
Pitzer (huge reach especially financially)
University of Delaware
some Sunys like Stony Brook, Buffalo I think??
Earlham
…so you can see our conundrum (sp?). </p>

<p>Most schools have decent study abroad programs, my daughter really wants to study abroad and for her major/minor she will actually be required to. When we went on our tour of Denison University we were told they send 50% of students abroad. Denison is a good school with fantastic merit awards. Unfortunately, my daughter doesn’t like it and even though it is a pretty solid match - we are questioning if she would qualify for a big enough scholarhsip to go.</p>

<p>I would suggest you dive into the internet and just start looking. Go to college board and type in your stats and they have great graphs to show where you stand. I would narrowing your list to schools with good merit aid for whatever stats you have. Then start looking at where the academics are going to work for you. The schools I have mentioned I believe are all solid schools. Maybe this will help get you started. My daughter has a lot of work ahead of her and a lot of decisions - if it were up to her she would be applying to 20 schools but I am insisting we get it down to 10-12, at least no more than 14…lol </p>

<p>It is a difficult process for some. She has friends who just know they want Ohio State or another school and that is where why will apply and maybe 1 or 2 others just to be safe. We don’t have the financial security to do that and even if we did I think she wants a lot of options. When you find a few schools that look interesting go on a visit - even if it is summer it will still be helpful. </p>

<p>I know you didn’t put up your stats and that is ok, but you need to think about them in relations to the schools you are picking. If you don’t have a 4.0 and 2300 sats then Ivies may be out. Either way - good luck! Hope this helped a little. It is a crazy time for sure.</p>

<p>Hi VindicatingVIN:</p>

<p>I’m not certain what year you are in School, but please try and take this time to ENJOY looking at all schools wherein your grades, test scores, and other stats may/will qualify you for acceptance. With over 4000 Colleges and Universities in the United States, the process of narrowing down your list of possibilities may certainly seem a bit overwhelming at times.</p>

<p>If you are in need of “excellent financial aid and scholarships” choose schools wherein your stats place you in the top 1% -2% of the applicant pool of your targeted choices. You’re going to have to continue ti do a bit of research in this area, but there are sites (often on the colleges own website) which publish the incoming freshman class statistics (from the year prior). Generally, the top 50 Schools do not offer much in the way of “excellent financial aid and scholarships” except for their tip top candidates.</p>

<p>IF you have the stats for USNWR’s top 50 list, look at statistics that list the number of students who’ve earned scholarships/financial aid from those schools and what the average financial award packages were? Again, this is going to take a bit of research to confirm. IF your stats make you more competitive for Schools (tier 2) USNWR 50-150, begin to look at the accepted student profiles of those schools on their websites. Many people are not overly impressed with USNWR’s “ranking system” but USNWR does offer a good basic over-view of all the schools they profile. (Ex: Cost of Attendance, most desired majors, room and board fees, greek life, male-to-female ratio, deadlines for applications/ED, EA, and RD deadlines, photos of the campuses, and comments from students). USNWR= Not a bad place to start (or return) to USNWR for a more complete review of the colleges you’re interested in. </p>

<p>If your parents are not married, (but do live together) I “believe” that you can have the parent with the lower income (your Father) file as the custodial parent. Because your parents are not married, I “think” this is possible. Don’t trust my guess…(Vist the FAFSA site for specific answers to this particular situtation, or perhaps one of the FABULOUS financial aid parents on this site will chime-in for you). It DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE, because families with incomes of less than $50,000.00, AND OTHER QUALIFICATIONS may qualify for some amount of government financial aid (beyond that of just the stafford loan) by way of the “simplified needs test.” (Requires a 1040A filing and other requirements). You have time to sit down with your parents (after researching the FAFSA rules) and determine how much (if any) monies they can pay towards your college education. Your COA “parental budget” information is critical! Once you KNOW what your parents can/cannot afford to pay towards the cost of your education, you’ll be in a much better position to continue to research schools that meet your academic and social requirements.</p>

<p>No need to focus on what your major will be right now…enjoy creating a list of schools wherein your stats are competitive, the campuses provide the social qualities that you’re looking for, and wherein you’ll be able to afford the COA. </p>

<p>Lastly, please do not worry about finding a school that you will “adore.” Students sometimes seem to get so trapped into believing that there are only 1 or 2 schools that they will enjoy attending. This is simply NOT the case. Often, students attend their “dream school” only to find out that it was not the picture they’d imagined during their college selection process. There hasn’t been ONE STUDENT…ever (I cannot imagine), who has known without a shadow of a doubt what he/she will REALLY FEEL about the school he/she attends until the end of the Freshman year experience. Take a deep breath, and look at the process more as if “you’re CHOOSING” which Schools meet your needs, as opposed to allowing the thrill of this journey to be clowded by uncertaincies. Just do some more research, you will begin to be able to compile your narrowed list. </p>

<p>I guarantee you, there are more than just a few schools that will grab your attention…you just need to make certain that the COA does not grab your wallet and leave you shaking with high debt 4 years after the “dream.” Visit College **<strong><em>, and see what STUDENTS HAVE TO SAY about the schools they attend. College </em></strong> also has a seperate internship information profile, which will list for you additional information about the nature/type of internships the specific colleges offer. </p>

<p>MUCH success to you !</p>

<p>Without some idea of your stats we are shooting in the dark with any recommendations. For example, Harvard meets every one of the criteria you list. But unless your stats put you in the ballpark it’s kind of pointless for us to recommend it to you.</p>

<p>I’d advise you to not worry about college selection right now because you are just a rising sophomore. <a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-search-selection/1122735-medicine-business-please-read.html#post12373850[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-search-selection/1122735-medicine-business-please-read.html#post12373850&lt;/a&gt; Go to school, have fun, learn much.</p>

<p>I just want to go to a college that I would adore. I’ve been looking forward to this moment since forever and I just don’t want to mess it up. I’m, obviously, desperate as can be.</p>

<p>Relax. You have plenty of time.</p>

<p>One thing you can start doing is meeting any college reps who come to your school. Ask them questions, digest the answers. Continue to read CC, but don’t obsess over it. Then, two years from now, you can develop an informed list.</p>

<p>Doing so now would probably be a waste of time. Your interests and ambitions will likely change between now and application time.</p>