<p>mzsp23- I don't know what to tell you anymore. There were some valid suggestions such as join clubs and etc. But really the own thing left to do is to transfer if you don't like don't waste anymore time there. Be honest with your parents and tell them whats going on.</p>
<p>I go to Michigan State University. While not in the south, its exactly how you describe your school. I just think that mentality is the most home at big state colleges that are heavy on the sports, and southern schools. Thats just my observation though, so no one should get too angry by what I'm sayin.</p>
<p>Well, at this point you only have a couple of options:</p>
<p>1) Try to ignore the partying tendencies. Have fun with your friends when they're not out partying, get them to respect your wish not to have the party atmosphere pushed on you, and carve out your social niche in that way.</p>
<p>2) If you feel that you cannot have a satisfactory social/college life because (even after recognizing your tendency to judge the party people, and correcting that tendency) those people party so much that you literally cannot have any fun without joining them, then transfer.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, while I'd like to suggest something else, those really are the only options. I'm not you, I don't go to your college, and I can't really tell you which you should pick, or whether the first is even possible for you; that is something you'll have to decide for yourself.</p>
<p>What I can tell you is that other than at BYU, BJU, and Pensacola Christian College, there will be lots of drinking and partying. Welcome to college. If you cannot deal with that, you're going to have a hard time anywhere. If you can get over it a bit and learn to not judge people for actions that don't affect you directly, you could end up having a lot of fun. If transferring is what you decide, look especially for places with substance-free dorms. There's lots like that here at Princeton, and from what I can tell they provide a great atmosphere for those who want to live their college life without partying and rampant drinking.</p>
<p>jack4640, I find your comment about the south to be incredibly stupid, and I am offended by it. I completely agree with AUlostchick.</p>
<p>I'm from SC, but that doesn't make me a skank that likes to do nothing but party and get wasted everyday. I would rather spend my time doing something more productive.</p>
<p>To the OP, I'm sorry your experience at Clemson has been so bad. I know that EVERYONE at Clemson can't be obsessed with drinking and stuff. I know people that go there that do drink, but not all of the time. I also know a youth pastor that graduated from there that had a great experience.</p>
<p>I don't think jack4640 intentionally meant to offend anyone by what he said. He said a ton of people I go to school with are as he described, but not everyone. There are some clemson students that aren't that way. However, many do behave in that exact manner. That's the exact reason I am so unpleased with clemson. Tmacgirl, I think you're exactly right. I really do need to try and lay everything out to my parents and try to communicate my problem to them. And if that doesn't really help the issue I just need to try 1of42's suggestions about ignoring the party scene and just trying to accept it more. I guess I need to not be so judgemental about everything. This honestly scares me. I expected people to be more mature in college, but they weren't. So if I now start to believe that people will be more mature once we finish college and enter the professional world, I might be let down again. To everyone offended, I'm honestly very sorry. Thanks to everyone for their input!</p>
<p>mzsp23, reading about the party scene at clemson sort of scares me. I've already been accepted there and I'm considering going, but I don't want to be around a bunch of people that only care about partying. I like to party and stuff, but not to an extreme level. Are there any things about Clemson that you actually like?</p>
<p>I also think you should really talk to your parents and express how you feel about Clemson and being instate. If that doesn't work, and they still refuse to let you go out of state, then I think you should try to transfer out of state anyway, and tell them.</p>
<p>I do like football at clemson but honestly there's not too much I care for. There's no real wrestling team, just a club, and that's not too great so as far as getting involved in athletics I haven't done much. The religious organizations might be good for some people but my beliefs seem to stray away from what most of their's seem to be. So I haven't really been able to feel comfortable there. If you were raised in the south (no offense to anyone here) clemson is probably very fitting and you'll enjoy your time there. It's a good school, honestly. It's just not the one for me and I kind of feel bummed out to have to spend what I feel are some of the most important years of my life there. Trust me, I've flirted with the idea of just applying to other schools without even telling my parents to see if I got accepted and if so show my parents that and then try to convince them to let me go there. I wanted to go to app state originally. We toured the campus and I really liked the individuality that is promoted there. I also was very impressed by the medical program they had there because at that time I was really wanting to go into cardiology. Now, I am seriously wanting to pursue nursing and would still love to go to app or especially nyu. But my parents don't see it wise to forfeit a clemson degree to one from app state. They feel clemson is more prestigious. I've even reached the point of just wanting to quit college because my only option is clemson and joining the military. I just know I want to complete a degree before doing this so again I'm feeling the pressure to stay at clemson.</p>
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<p>Yes, this. Although to be honest I was pretty careless with my words so it's no surprise that people took offense. My best friend and half my family is from the south, so I have spent a lot of time there and with southerners. </p>
<p>Most schools have a party culture, but I've noticed that in the South it's much more excessive and universal than in any other part of the country. Greek life is more prominent in the South; additionally, the schools are more likely to be in rural settings and smaller towns. Thus, social life tends to revolve around frat parties and alcohol consumption, even more than it does in similarly-rural schools in the North. </p>
<p>Also, I shouldn't have said that the South as a whole is less-developed; what I meant was that he should look for a school in a less rural area. One of the advantages to schools in large towns/cities is that there are plenty of things to do besides parties and drinking, like museums and concerts.</p>
<p>mzsp23, maybe you should try to make friends with older people. I've found alot of people get out of the partying phase, when they get further up in school. Freshman tend to get a little wild because it's the first time they're away from parents and all. Some people carry it over to sophomore year, too. But nearly everyone I know, we have all begun to get a little tired of the party scene by now (junior year). I do enjoy the occasional bar, or party, but it's not an every weekend thing anymore. So maybe just try to find people who are older that ARE more mature. </p>
<p>Also, one thing about college is that you have to deal with people who are a lot different from you. And it can be hard at first, but actually, getting through this will make YOU more mature in the process as well.</p>
<p>to mzsp23--look into transferring. It's not hard to do. We're from New York and our kid found himself in a similar situation at a top tier private Virginia school. He transferred out after a year, just finished his first semester at the new public university and couldn't be happier. From our experience, students at public universities tend to be more accepting and include everyone in the fun whether you drink or not. Have hope and try a new school.</p>
<p>mzsp23 -- I am a Clemson graduate (class of '84) and presently have a daughter in HS who has been accepted to Clemson & USC-Columbia. I saw a student blog from USC stating that she was part of a college national exchange program and is presently attending college in Hawaii (for same tuition as USC and credits transfer back to USC). Fresh</a> Perspectives
Perhaps this is an option at Clemson as well. Still in-state tuition but attending college OOS. Although, I disagree strongly with many of the anti-southern post, you need to find the right fit for you (in or out of Clemson). Good Luck... (note: college is like Thailand, you can get into as much or as little trouble as you want)</p>