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Sorry about that GooPV. I think you should discuss this with him and you can both come to a mutual agreement on what each other can do and when each other can bring "guests" over...so neither him nor you have to have an awkward confrontation like that again. Just be fair and respectful, and explain to him that he should also be. =).
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<p>My roommate and I have a setup where we will text each other and wait for a confirmation before we bring a "temporary guest" to avoid those awkward situations.</p>
<p>Oh good one. Yea, usually my roommates and I let each other know if someone's coming over. It's never a "SURPRISE! HERE'S SOMEONE NEW!" situation.
GooPV: I say, just bring it up to your roommate like as if it's a passing comment but it's not. Just be like "Hey, was meaning to say this but... it would be good if you'll let me know if someone's coming over next time." Can't imagine him refusing to do so. You guys can work something out from there on.
The important thing is not to be a wuss about it. ;o</p>
<p>Out of my three roommates, I do feel that I'm picking up more of the house-cleaning load than I'd like. They made a cleaning schedule that no one sticks to, no one really runs the dishwasher except for me, and they make up all these rules (no dirty pots/pans on the stove) that they don't even follow.</p>
<p>I'm the only one who really cooks using pots/pans, and I wash and dry them each time. My roommate who left his dirty pasta pot for FOUR days on the stove put it to soak in the sink, writing a note on the bulletin board "Don't let dirty pots sit on the stove!" Which is ironic because a few days earlier, he was going on about how everyone should do their own dishes and not leave anything soaking in its own disgusting-ness in the sink. I mean, he obviously thought that it was my pot, but really... </p>
<p>Sometimes, I HAVE to run the dishwasher because there's no dirty dishes left, but I don't want to have to rinse the dirty dishes (that aren't mine) in the sink and put them in the dishwasher- am I compelled to do so? I feel bad leaving a sinkful of dirty dishes outside while running a load, but I don't want everyone to think I'm running a maid service. Then again, if the sink is full with dirty dishes, I can't really use the sink to wash MY dishes or veggies or something like that. I don't really know how to go about this, other than straight out telling them they should help out too...which would lead to even more tension in the apartment.</p>
<p>I'm just venting here, let me know if you have any feedback. :D</p>
<p>One of my brother's roommates left a baked potato (or what was left after he ate most of it, anyway) in the sink for over three months and always has a pile of his dirty dishes in the sink. </p>
<p>But yeah, it's not your job to clean up after them. I'd just leave their stuff dirty if I were you. If they say something about you not running their dishes through the dishwasher, just tell them that you're not their momma and that if they want their dishes cleaned, they need to put them in there themselves. </p>
<p>They may get ****ed for a while, but who cares?</p>
<p>My cousin, who's a very observant Jew, had a neo-Nazi as a roommate who wanted to display large posters of Hitler and the swastika in their room. And the most awkward/worst thing about it was, the person was mostly just interested at an intellectual level, had no idea what Hitler and the Nazis really stood for. I would dread that confrontation.</p>