Insecurities

<p>I used to be a really self-assured person when I was younger. I have never been popular, but I was able to interact with people and come off as a decent person. However, when I started college up until now (junior in college), I have become really insecure. Not about my looks or anything, but just about myself as a person. The best way I can describe it is, when I'm walking around campus I wish that I were invisible (cliche I know). I feel like everyone who is looking at me is judging me and taking in a negative impression of me. Also, I can't really talk with anyone anymore when someone initiates conversation with me (which happens rarely) because I feel really awkward and end up stumbling all over my words. I don't know how I got to this point. I used to be able to socialize with others fine. Has anyone been in a similar situation? If you have, did you get out of it and how? Thanks.</p>

<p>Edit: I wanted to add that while I've been at this school for a while, I haven't really made any friends. I'm definitely not lonely and have always been independent. More of a concern is I don't really fit the school very well. I can't really produce any specifics, but I just get a unfortunate vibe when I'm here. I don't really feel comfortable. Maybe that is the cause of my situation?</p>

<p>im a bit in the same situation as you. I'm not sure where all my insecurity came from, seeing I had a lot of friends/activities when I was younger. Eventually it got so bad that I sort of secluded myself.</p>

<p>Right now I'm trying to change that and I'm trying two things. One is to change my body with exercise so that I'm more confident about my looks and the other is to get more close friends that I can talk to about anything and like me for who I am.</p>

<p>You should seek professional help. Almost everyone goes through their bouts of depression or other psychological disorder at some point in their lives, and it's possible that all of your anxieties, pressures, and nervousness about going to a new school triggered this unfortunate event. Colleges often have very good (and confidential) program set up to serve your needs.</p>

<p>Everyone has there insecurities. Some people simply just do a better job of masking them or mitigating them or simply living with them. I think what you need to do is find what makes you happy and if what makes you happy is something you don't have, GO GET IT!
As far as seeing people look at you and feeling insecure and feeling like you're being judged, I think that happens to a lot of people and that's PARTLY why they look at people (you). Also, if you feel like you're being judged when people are looking at you, is it because you tend to judge people upon sight as well?</p>

<p>In any case just go out and be yourself, it may be difficult, but you'll be happy and what seemed difficult at will seem like worthwhile.</p>