<p>Marite is sooo right, Mini. You have a remarkable daughter who was highly desirable to Smith. Enough so that she got the grand merit prize there, and I'm sure they strrrretched that financial aid package to get her. And she deserves every cent they gave her from the feedback we are getting. She is soaking up everything Smith has to offer. But my feeling is that short of locking her in a closet and beating her everyday, she would have done fine where ever she ended up. Some, not many, kids are that way. </p>
<p>Others can thrive but are more vulnerable for challenges and would statistically do far better, be far happier, learn more at a small school like Smith but do not have the academic profile to get into a school of that calibre. Ursinus might be a good pick for such a student. I know a couple who are Ursinus grads, and unlike most ivy league grads, they started college as B-C students and not so hot gpas. They were not the intellectually stimulated, love of learning kids. They needed a place to grow for a few years, learning some academics, culture, and all the other things, bad and good that you learn from being away from home. One was not a stand out at Ursinus either, but he is now in a job he loves, does well in it and earns enough money to live well in Manhattan with a second home in Europe. Wife, also a Ursinus grad is an editor for a great magazine, a dream job, now on sabbatical with two little ones, enjoying being a stay home mom, and writing on the side. Very happy people who are enjoying their lives. They got a lot of mileage out of whatever their parents paid for URsinus. Would they have done as well at State U? The hubby would have likely flunked out as he had issues that a small school like Ursinus was able to resolve, that would not have been addressed at a large uni. So he was very lucky to have parents who could afford Ursinus. We would love to send our son to a school like that. BUt the cost is more than we should be paying, given some issues we are facing. We do no qualify for financial aid, and I agree with the assessment. We need to make some hard decisions, and it is going to difficult for us. If we find some way to cut the sticker price and find a good fit college, we will go that route. </p>
<p>So, no, Mini, what do you care? You daughter has the stats to get into top schools, got into a top school and is getting a very rich package that very, very few kids get. Going to a small, nurturing college with rich educational opportunities for a song. (literally, from what I understand some of her activities are!) What if you had one that you felt would thrive in such an environment, but wasn't going to get the deal your first daughter is getting. It becomes more relevant getting the half to pay Ursinus than to pay Harvard, since H would be a foregone conclusion for admissions, but Ursinus might well be a great fit for such a student. Therein lies the problem with these sticker prices. </p>
<p>So who is paying these sticker prices for schools that are not HPY? Well, many who have the money, but whose kids cannot get into HPY but are great matches for school like Ursinus. THat have profiles where it looks like a good match. And those who have to borrow and scrape to send their kids there, because it is by far the best choice for the kid. He may not have gotten into Penn STate main campus, and a look at the satellite schools may show a scene where the likelihood of making it through the first few years is unlikely, given the student's academic and maturity profile. Not interested in teaching, business or criminal justice--a good liberal arts education probably the best bet. And you want a strong school community, not a suitcase school. So these parents sacrifice to put together a package if they do not qualify for financial aid or are given an inadequate package. Those who are truly needy, and do not get enough to go, just don't. Community college for them, and hopefully the experience is such there that they want to go on to school.</p>