<p>Is it just me or does anyone else find intelligence an attractive asset? I am a teenage guy and I realized that every girl I have ever had a crush has been really smart. Not necessarily hot in terms of looks</p>
<p>Yes, yes, they have to have that quirky, smart look, which oftentimes doesn’t have to be “hot”.</p>
<p>I’d way rather a guy have brains than brawn. The most unattractive thing: girls pretending to be stupid. I fail to see why any guy would go for that.</p>
<p>Yeah, I agree 100% with MBV. (:</p>
<p>Ditto. I feel like if a physically average guy is really witty and smart, he somehow becomes hotter over time. The inverse also holds true, at least for me-- if a guy is gorgeous but incredibly dumb, the effect of his good looks wear off quickly.</p>
<p>Nice to know I’m not alone</p>
<p>Yup, I could never imagine falling for someone who isn’t intelligent.</p>
<p>I like both, but I find intelligence more important. People have said that an average looking person who is extremely intelligent will grow on them, and for me I feel like if somebody very intelligent looks even slightly good, then they will grow on me over time. But they have to have SOME looks. Some people may call me superficial for that, but if I like you as a person, but don’t want to date you, I call that friendship. If I like you as a person and I want to date you, that’s called being in a relationship.</p>
<p>Nano, guys go for that because they feel like they can manipulate the girls into doing what they want, you know sexually.</p>
<p>I lean towards the smart ones a lot more. I find it really intriguing how they are so competent. Bluestockings that I see are also cute and good looking too. I’m introverted so of course I can never open my mouth so I just stay interested. If I were to get married or be in a relationship with anyone they’d have to be smart- but I also take into account their personality. I may sound picky , especially when I say this but they have to be the opposite of me. Not shy, but peppy and outgoing, cuz otherwise is just be awkward all the time… Like the last relationship I was in.</p>
<p>I like wittiness above all things, and wittiness usually requires intelligence.
But intelligence by itself is wasted on some people.</p>
<p>Shared intellectual interest is better than intelligence.</p>
<p>Halogen and halcyon, I agree. Knowing how to derive, integrate, define difficult words, and watch out for grammatical errors is nice and everything. However, if that’s all they’re able to do (and aren’t able to talk politics and be witty), their personalities don’t come off as very attractive.</p>
<p>I think the sample size here is likely to be very biased.</p>
<p>I agree with Eric. ^</p>
<p>But yeah – a girl who is dumb or acts dumb is not a girl I will associate myself with.</p>
<p>^lol yeah, my high school =/= CC in terms of dating requirements.
But I agree with halogen. I mean, someone can be extremely intelligent, but if their main interests are chess and world war II, I’m not going to talk to them for long because we just don’t have much in common. So while intelligence is a must, it’s not the only one.</p>
<p>intelligence CAN be attractive, but not if he’s arrogant, condescending, etc</p>
<p>honestly, sometimes when guys are really academically inclined, that can be a turn off…</p>
<p>but if the guy has a nice personality (he’s sweet, friendly, selfless), and i’m attracted to his looks, then i have no problem if he’s not too academic.</p>
<p>I’ve never thought of having shared interest as being of paramount importance. It’s more important that she be knowledgeable about something of potential interest to me, and vice versa, so we can learn from each other.</p>
<p>Arrogance and condescension could be sexy in moderate dosage ;-). I wouldn’t be into a girl who’s too sweet, friendly, and selfless. She needs to have that quirk. </p>
<p>Good tastes in music = also key.</p>
<p>It’s usually the case where I go out with a girl that I’m really close friends with and we seem to hit it off well. I’m not really nitpicky about what kind of girl I like because I’m not much in a position to be.</p>