<p>The LAC my daughter applied to ED has December 15 as its date for mailing decisions on its website, but when I called to see if letters would be mailed today, I was told they would be in the mail on Friday. So the letter will most likely arrive on Monday. These next few days will be difficult, especially since there is a chance that other applications will have to be quickly finished in a very short timeframe.</p>
<p>I suspect we're in the same boat and we'll be out of the country next week and won't see any mail until after Christmas.</p>
<p>Good luck.</p>
<p>Thanks. Is there a chance you can call and explain the circumstances and they will be able to tell your child on the phone after the letters are mailed, since he or she won't be at home?</p>
<p>Your title attracted my attention. I am just feeling frozen and cannot respond to the threads congratulating those whose children have received their acceptances so swiftly. My son has been deferred at MIT and is waiting to hear from Chicago, and I can't even think. I really am very happy for those whose children have been accepted, but this is so hard for those of us who have only more waiting to endure. This is one of the worst of the situtations where having a child is like having one's heart walking around on the outside for all the world to throw stones at. Or, perhaps worse, ignore.</p>
<p>Ctymomteacher - When will Chicago send out its decisions? Soon I hope. I think I am more worried than my daughter, or at least more obsessed. In our case, the school she applied to is a "match" rather than a "reach", and it has traditionally accepted a large percent of its ED applicants. So rationally we know that she has a very good chance, but emotionally it is very difficult to have this huge uncertainty hanging over us.</p>
<p>Well, to be the bluebird of paradise, if you think that waiting now is bad, I will just say that in the case of rejection/deferral, it seems like forever between now and April 1 or whenever you start getting any RD decisions.</p>
<p>Good luck to all of you who wait. I have fingers crossed for several of D's friends.</p>
<p>Hi,
I'm in the same boat. We are waiting to hear from Chicago, the only school our S applied early to. The school should be a high-match for him, but when I read of all the wonderful kids getting deferred right and left from these schools, I start to feel very irrational and anxious. Even paranoid! :) S has already mailed out 2 UC applications (which were a lot of work!) and just finished an ivy app (which was also A LOT of work) that will go in the mail today. He has three more apps to do, one due at end of Dec. and two in mid-Jan. He's tired, crabby and stressed out. Sometimes he wonders why go through all of this work when the system seems so arbitrary. When I told him about some of the wonderful kids on this board deferred from Harvard yesterday, he just threw up his hands. So, I'm not going to tell him any more (he doesn't come on this board, which is probably healthier at this point, even though there are many success stories, too). </p>
<p>Good news from Chicago this week should help all of us feel more confident and relaxed. Bad news? Oh, I don't even want to think about it. Sigh. I'm crossing my fingers for you, ctymomteacher, Strick and MotherOfTwo... and I know what you mean about your heart walking around outside your body, ctymom. I remember feeling that way when he was first born, that feeling of sudden, unexpected vulnerability. And here it is again, 17 years later. This morning I went for my regular walk and started thinking about how all of my efforts at helping him through this application process -- all the reading and researching and proof-reading and strategizing that I've gladly and eagerly done -- were only pushing him more firmly out the door. Then I started to cry! Here I am walking along in the dawn weeping! Emotional, me? Nah... luckily it was dark still.</p>
<p>"Is there a chance you can call and explain the circumstances and they will be able to tell your child on the phone after the letters are mailed, since he or she won't be at home?"</p>
<p>Probably not necessary. Someone over at the CMU admission office's forum called and learned that they had mailed them yesterday. </p>
<p>Reminicent of another recent thread, our son had asked us not only not to open the letter (he wants to read it for himself, naturally) but not to tell him he got anything until finals were over. Given where we live, it should come tomorrow afternoon, which is pretty good timing for us.</p>
<p>Thanks, momof2inca. CC has been very good for helping us understand that admissions at the very selective schools is unpredictable and it's less about the specific student than what the school thinks it needs (i.e., you aren't necessarily a failure if you don't get in). Our son seems philosophical about the whole thing, but you never know how they'll really take it until they open the letter, right?</p>
<p>Hugs to you guys, fingers crossed, and good luck. I dreaded deferral much more than rejection. I pray it will soon be OVER. And thank you to D's GC who required all apps in by Dec 1.</p>
<p>I expect it is like when my oldest daughter was tested for AIDS ( she had multiple transfusions at birth before they tested blood).
She was 5 when I had her tested, I didn't really think that she had been exposed to it and so I wasn't worried it was just a precaution. But when I called to check on the results ( I was in the cosmetics section of Nordstroms so casual was I), I broke down in tears of relief.
I think no matter what way decisions go, there is a great deal of emotion, much mixed and at least with notification, we can release some of that and plan for the next step.
Best wishes to all.</p>
<p>Momof 2inca, I have gotten to the point where reading this board makes me cry almost no matter what I'm reading. That's how irrational and desperate I'm feeling. I want him to get what he wants at Chicago so badly! They sent out decisions today, so at least the waiting will be over within the next two or three days for us (in NC). MIT got here from Friday to Monday. An acceptance at Chicago would make the MIT deferral so much easier to take! Both have the rare undergrad major he wants.</p>
<p>I hope you all receive good news--SOON!</p>
<p>{{hugs}}, ctymom. I know how you feel. I wonder how long it will take to get mail from Chicago to Calif? I wish they would overnight it!! We are among the last poor parents to know about early decisions.</p>
<p>Dear Emerald, thank you for reminding us that we are fortunate to be so worried about such a high-level event that will end in happiness no matter where they end up. How awful that must have been for you.</p>
<p>To all of you who are waiting, maybe it helps to share and commisserate, so I will jump back in here. Last year, with oldest D, we had to wait until April 1 (having been deferred EA to Yale) and she did not hear from ALL her schools until within a day or so of April 1. So, not only did we sit through the whole early round on CC, but then in spring, I swear it seemed like EVERYONE heard from at least one if not all their schools and my D had not heard from ANY (which is what we expected knowing their notification dates). Anyone on here might recall the umpteen threads of news and my posts were always, "no news", LOL. But ya know, my D's turn finally came and all was good. Lots of letters at one time. Frankly, between Dec. and late March, we did not think about it that much as the intensity of the process had worn off as all the applications were in, etc. and there is not much to do with college stuff all that time. We really only started to think about it ALL OVER AGAIN in mid March. So, trust me, there is a LULL in the action. Right now, with the whole app season and the whole ED/EA dates in our midst, it is more intense. </p>
<p>Ok, but onto D2, a current applicant. I feel for your "waits" for your ED letters but let me tell you, my D has a LONG wait and a LONG process still to go with NO LULLS. She has sent off 7 applications so far with one more to do this weekend. Lotsa work. Only one of her schools even offers ED for her field and while for a long time she was gonna do that, she opted not to apply ED for various reasons though it is still one of her first choices. THAT school is where 8 close friends (one a BF) applied early decision and so far, five have gotten letters and got accepted (highly selective) and three have not yet heard at all. When their calls came through with their happy news and that they were DONE, while she is so thrilled for them, she broke down for all of three minutes (thankfully) that why didn't SHE do that and if (big IF I realize) she had gotten in as well, she would be done too. She asked me to remind her of all the reasons why she did not do ED there (something she had talked of doing for years) and as soon as I reminded her of all her well thought through reasons for applying RD, she realized she did what was right for her but it is hard to have to go through this stress for many more months when these friends are all done. </p>
<p>Now, ONE of her schools (a favored one but not her first choice) offers EA and so she went for that so she could at least hear from one school earlier and also have one audition under her belt. It is NOT like your kids on this forum who applied early to what is usually their first choice and so it is a bit of a different situation. It is not like if she gets in, all is done. But it would be SOOOOOOO great if she could get into this EA school and go into the next several months knowing she can go to a college she really likes and it lessens the stress of the rest of the auditions. She expected the snail mail letter today. She does not get home until 8:15 PM from all her activities and asked me to not call her with ANY news....little or big envelope, received or not, etc. She said she needs to get through all she has to do and wants to wait until she gets back from all these things. Well, no envelope even arrived. I did not want her to read anything into that and I called admissions to ask IF/WHEN decision letters went out and they said all were mailed yesterday and so we just did not get it here yet (though her CT best friend just called here and she did not get any letter yet either). Thus more waiting. It is not like all is riding on this school or that it is a first choice but it would very very much help her go into the rest of this process to have one positive outcome to build some confidence that she will go somewhere. </p>
<p>Not only do we have to wait many more months, but her process is not nearly done because even when this last app gets mailed this week, she now has 7 more auditions to go to and SO much is riding on those, lots of pressure, and very very difficult odds at all 8 schools (admit rates in single digits into these programs) so it is hard to even know if she will get in anywhere though I HOPE she does. So, her admissions process continues on, much past Dec. in terms of "applying"...so LOTS more to go in our house.....</p>
<p>and just to give ya a picture....to check my mail, I had to DRIVE to my mailbox (long driveway) and in the snow and freezing cold, peer into the box with a pitter patter in my heart for her.....
Susan</p>
<p>I didn't mean to make people feel bad for me, I was just trying to point out my agreement with Strick in that we really don't know how we will react.( it was scary, but intellectually I realized that if being born 10 weeks early didn't harm her, it was unlikely she was also harboring a virus- but my heart was glad to have it confirmed anyway)
My daughter didn't apply ED, and while it was really hard waiting till spring, the decision did come when we weren't expecting it. ( it also helps to have applied to a couple rolling admissions schools as well) She was admitted to her reach school, and because it was a reach, we really didn't have it in our minds as financially or academically possible.
But with her acceptance and her aid package, both came true and it took while to get used to and accept. ( Actually it took until she started attending classes, she was pretty intimidated by the reputation. )
Such a time to have to wait for ED- get thru finals, then have break and sit by the mailbox. So glad we don't have to do that, it is hard enough imagining the tension long distance!</p>
<p>Thanks, Soozie for the perspective! Wow, your second D does have a lot on her plate! I think you are right about the intensity of this time period (with EA/ED, holidays, finals and apps still waiting to be written and sent... it's just a lot of pressure for a kid and his parents). Spring might be a little easier because at least the apps will be done and the finals will be a ways off.</p>
<p>Thanks, Soozie for the perspective! Wow, your second D does have a lot on her plate! I'm actually feeling a little better since at least we don't have auditions to contend with. I think you are right about the intensity of this time period (with EA/ED, holidays, finals and apps still waiting to be written and sent... it's just a lot of pressure for a kid and his parents). Spring might be a little easier because at least the apps will be done and the finals will be a ways off.</p>