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a lot of chinese and indian traditional parents only allow their child to date and marry (typically have arranged marriages to ppl they hardly even know) only ppl from their same region, same language, same beliefs, etc. of their mother country. i think this is really stupid.... i mean, if these ppl want to do that, it's one thing, but forcing them to do it is quite another........
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Arranged marriages usually work out better than independent/consented marriages usually though. This is mainly because when people marry out of love, they get their hearts broken when things don't work out for them after marriage. Let's face it, people change after they get married because they take their partner for granted. Also, habits of males/females that once were deemed attractive and interesting by their significant other end up seemming irritating after marriage. The thing is with an arranged marriage, the couple has nothing to lose. They end up not feeling attached at first but their relationship eventually develops after they face the hardships of life together. This kind of union, fostered with years of trust, dependability, and understanding, ussually lasts longer then some marriage between two young adults that go on a silly 2-month dating spree and think that they know everything about each other.</p>
<p>Still, I don't think arranged marriages would work in European countries and the US, mainly because the family ties and traditional values in these areas are simply not as strong as those in Asia.</p>
<p>All that being said, arranged marraiges is a practice that is being abadoned in Asian culture slowly, mainly due to the revolt of its young generation. I currently know a lot of Asians who are part of an interracial marriage.</p>
<p>I hope that clears up your doubt IcicleRose88. Meh, Asian countries still have lower divorce rate than Western countries. ;)</p>
<p>Interracial dating is pretty much unavoidable you live in a city in US. Interaccial marriage is an entirely different thing. </p>
<p>"Arranged marriages usually work out better than independent/consented marriages usually though."</p>
<p>man<em>on</em>fire, while its true that people whose mariages are arranged tend to last longer, they tend to be quite unhappy for most of their lives. As a child of an arranged marriage, I can tell you that my parents are incompatible. The only reason that they are even together is for the kids. The entire cycle of arranged marriages does not work. You live for the betterment of your kids, only to make them go through the same cycle again. You can pull up all the divorce rate statistics you want, but the truth is a lot of people are left unsatied and unloved, unfairly so IMO.</p>
<p>"The only reason that they are even together is for the kids."</p>
<p>when this happens, it is sad, as you can testify to. it's probably against the rules in your culture to divorce, but sometimes divorce is needed! why live with someone you don't really like/are incompatible with? but what your parents are doing is right; they need to stay together for their children. couples need to think about how long they'll stay together and compatability before they have children so they don't end up in this scenario.</p>
<p>icicle, I would appreciate it if you would be a little less quick to judge. A divorce is not against the rules in my culture and for the record, I am in no postion to say wether they need a divorce or not. I am simply saying that arranged marriages are not necessarily better than independant ones just because they get divorced less often.</p>
<p>ihopital, i do not know you, and i do not know your situation other than what you told us. i'm not trying to judge your situation, just trying to make a point.</p>
<p>Ive only quickly read through this thread, and haven't read everthing everyone has posted, but to the original question:</p>
<p>I have no problem with interracial dating. Everyone at my school seems to be doing it - I guess thats what you get for living in South Florida.</p>
<p>And as for the conversation about stereotypical blacks:
I am an African American female, and I hate rap and really don't care for fried chicken. I do believe that rappers continue the image of the stereotypical African American, and am really tired of defending other people of my race because of them. Not every black person you meet will have gold teeth in their mouth. </p>
<p>Anyway, those are my opinions; take it as you may :)</p>
<p>Everyone knows the stereotypes aren't true for everybody. But they sure are fun to make fun of. My school has a lot of black people with gold or silver in their teeth. One day I was taking photos for my photography class and a bunch of black guys smiled for me. I wish I had sunglasses.</p>
<p>people will never see past skin color, although it would be a perfect world if people did. I see nothing wrong with interacial dating, i myself am i product of intercultrual dating meaning my dad is of portuguesse and black orgin and my mom is Native American and Black..</p>
<p>I don't think skin color is a bad thing to notice. After all, who would want to live in a homogenous world. All my friends are of different ethnicities and skin colors. It's really cool to hear my Jewish friend talk about her beliefs (contrary to Jewish beliefs), my hispanic friends reppin' their countries, see my Nigerian friend wearing her ethnic clothes (which are GORGEOUS), and laugh with my Indian friend over the stupid things of life. I learn a lot from being in an environment where people notice others' differences, such as skin color and ethnicity, and appreciate them. Open dialogue is a beautiful. Only when there is no open dialogue do issues, such as skin color, become a problem and self-segregation occurs. </p>
<p>P.S. : This thread is going great. There hasn't been any ugly remarks yet. People are really being open-minded.</p>
<p>my school's fairly conservative. the only people that interdate are black jocks (and gangsta wannabes) with white and hispanic girls. and that's about it.
asians go out w/ asians
whites go out w/ whites
hispanics same thing.
Omg. I hardly see a black guy and a black girl go out together! lol</p>
<p>except this one kid who got into princeton.obviously he doesn't count as a gangsta wanabee. lmao</p>
<p>lol.
you mean he likes white girls at heart?</p>
<p>Chinese+Indian, sounds cool.
I hope his parents aren't mad.I know an indian guy too and his parents totally wants him to marry indian.
Not that he cares about girls now anyways.</p>