<p>Do interviewers have any sort of confidentiality clause? Or are they free to tell whatever they want to whomever they want? My interviewer has a daughter that goes to my school, and let's just say, shes the type of kid who goes around asking everybody what grades they got. And, I don't particualrly want my SAT scores and whatnot spilled everywhere. Actually, I don't really care about that, but I will probably not divulge certain things about my personal life during the interview that I would have if my interviewer were a complete stranger.</p>
<p>Don’t worry about it. They usually won’t tell grades/scores/ECs to other people because unlike us, which those three categories consume a large portion of our lives, most people around them don’t care about them. </p>
<p>There’s nothing to worry about.</p>
<p>Gosh - I don’t really agree with Msteve. If it’s the interviewer’s DAUGHTER in question…I think there is a fair chance their daughter could find out. Even innocently, at dinner:
“Hey, I interviewed a boy from your school today. It was a sad interview because he’s got some pretty serious issues like his Dad is in jail and he grew up in an orphanage…plus his stats aren’t that great!”
“Really, who?!”
“Oh, I don’t know if I should tell you”
“Aww, c’mon Dad”.
“No, it’s not right”</p>
<p>Next day at school…
“Hey, John, did you have your Princeton interview yet”?
“Yeah, just this weekend”.</p>
<p>And the rest can be deduced if there aren’t many applicants to Princeton, school is small, etc. So now she knows everything.</p>
<p>I wonder if it would be awkward for you to say, IF you do choose to divulge things such as your parent being in jail, etc…“I know that your report to Princeton can contain all of our conversation, but since we do live in this small community, I’m sure the details would be kept confidential other than that, right? I just don’t care to speak about these things in general terms, at my school, etc.”</p>
<p>First, if its something personal, most likely it won’t be divulged to a daughter, friend etc. You say that there is a fair chance, and of course there is but you have to take into account if the daughter cares and if the parent tells her the details. </p>
<p>Also, if its something as important or significant as a parent being in jail, the interviewer will usually err on the side of discretion and not tell their immature daughter. </p>
<p>There is a possibility that he would tell her but the more likely situation is that he wouldn’t. </p>
<p>And saying:</p>
<p>“I know that your report to Princeton can contain all of our conversation, but since we do live in this small community, I’m sure the details would be kept confidential other than that, right? I just don’t care to speak about these things in general terms, at my school, etc.”</p>
<p>may have negative ramifications as you may be doubting your interviewers discretion and trustworthiness, which I know they wouldn’t appreciate. </p>
<p>You’ll be fine.</p>
<p>Yeah, kept some stuff to myself, and I’m glad I did. The guy ended up spilling crap about other people without me even asking anything about it. We were talking about how there have been some expulsions in my grade, and then he was like, oh, so and so’s daughter (another girl in my grade) was being bullied by some girls and her dad (his coworker) was really concerned about it.</p>
<p>That’s completely unacceptable. Honestly I think you should speak to your college counselors about it. If students are going to be holding things back because this guy can’t keep his mouth shut then the college shouldn’t want him to interview anyway.</p>
<p>Tell Princeton about this too. He can’t just talk about other people’s personal lives to you.</p>
<p>He’s the president of my areas princeton club, i dont want to **** him off. i dont think his intentions were bad, he’s just a big mouth.</p>