<p>Jared12, you are assuming the OP wants to change their personality (and apparently should). I disagree. I am a natural introvert, and although I have learned to function quite effectively in an extrovert’s world (and even fake that condition myself sometimes), it isn’t really possible to “get out of” an introverted personality. D2 is also an introvert. She is also very artistic, a deep thinker, and a loyal and unwavering friend to those who have gotten to know her. Introversion is pretty integral to who she is.</p>
<p>3togo, that is a great suggestion about walking around the dorm on a Friday/Sat night. We just came from a campus visit today where our tour guide told a story about how she decided not to go out on a Friday night her freshman year of college, and how a senior and another older student in the dorm came to her room to hang around with her because they were sure she needed company (she was thrilled by this). D2 (the introvert) was somewhat horrified by this story; she decided after the visit that this college probably was not for her (there were many examples of communal behavior all day left her feeling like she would be “poked and prodded for wanting to be alone” some of the time). But if she did want to hang out with someone (and she does enjoy her friends, but hates parties and crowds), it would be the kids who would want to play hearts or Scrabble on a Friday night, or watch Sherlock or Dr. Who.</p>
<p>You might consider some of the clubs on campus (I know, clubs are more for extroverts!). But things like College Bowl or fencing club might be ones to try out.</p>
<p>FOLLOW YOUR PASSION</p>
<p>In your school there is an organization that represents what makes you tick. You just have to find it. What do you enjoy doing? if it is studying then join a book club or as someone suggested offer some tutoring.</p>
<p>Give yourself some time and it will happen. But if you want it to happen you should make youself more available to the types of people that are more like you. </p>
<p>Try learning a new lanquage? go to the International Clubs
Love the environment? join the environmental club
Love to help children? Volunteer at a local school.
Love to ride bikes? join bike club
Love anything join the club that applies to it, it is out there you just need to find out.</p>
<p>Keep your head up the fact that you came on here and shared your feelings with thousands of strangers shows me you are a brave soul. So go for it.</p>
<p>Maybe a bit of an unpopular idea, but I would suggest getting a copy of “The Game” by Neil Strauss. Get it not so much for the expose’ of the pick up artist culture, but for the subtext of a geeky journalist transforming himself into a socially adept person. It took some practice and some coaching. He also wrote a how-to guide called “The Stylelife Challenge.”</p>
<p>Introverts have fewer friends, but better ones. I like the idea of joining clubs, but choose the ones that encourage social interaction without the competetiveness. The school newspaper or radio are better than the Ultimate club. I raced bikes during college and it wasn’t a highly social group.</p>
<p>The original poster does NOT need to change who they are or be somebody else! They need to accept who they are and then work to find a few groups that are stimulating. Introverted people aren’t insecure or sullen or less passionate, they just are natured more to the inside than the outside. I know a few people who, I guess, would fall into this category and dudes, I am here to tell you these are some SMART people! They think instead of run their mouths all the time. You get cancer, you want people like THESE working on your case. Any pain that the OP feels is prolly societal, external pressure pushing conformity and strain to fit in and be like everybody else. </p>
<p>And there is all the right in that student staying in the library and working for high grades! </p>
<p>Find several local clubs on campus and join those, otherwise, keep it up and carry on!</p>
<p>The kitesurfer (a student)</p>
<p>Think of things you like to do. Check out different clubs and/or activities and pick one or two that interest you. Slowly get involved and eventually you will click with at least one. </p>
<p>My sons are at a big university. Each one has joined an intramural sport, a music club and chess club. There are so many clubs/activities. Google your university and clubs and specify interests. My son found his music club by searching for music and there several popped up. He picked a couple that interested him and narrowed down to one.</p>
<p>Look around in the library. Try and notice people who are in the library and may be in your classes. If you see a person, approach him/her and ask a question related to the class. Just try.
So many people here have given you good advice.
Good luck!</p>
<p>I wonder whether the teaching of English language is done as extensively as English Literature, anywhere in this world?</p>
<p>Are there ways to learn to communicate effectively in English language without the aid of literature?</p>
<p>Which is the best way to master English language if you do not belong to a community where use of English is prevalent?</p>
<p>Have y’all seen this recently published book?</p>
<p>[Amazon.com:</a> Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking (9780307352149): Susan Cain: Books](<a href=“http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352145/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1332685210&sr=1-1]Amazon.com:”>http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352145/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1332685210&sr=1-1)</p>
<p>I plan to read it soon. My older son (very gregarious) is thriving at a huge state school. My younger son, shy and introverted, would like to attend the same school (Alabama)…but we worry that he’ll be swallowed alive. This book could help us all put it into perspective, I’m thinking.</p>
<p>I hear you. Fellow introvert here who’s had her fair share of social difficulty. The truth is that socializing and making friends will probably never come easily for you, especially since you’re seeking other reserved people who are going to be harder to become acquainted with. But it can become easier with some practice. A couple of things to consider…</p>
<p>Practice talking to others in your classes. Ask the person sitting next to you what they think of the book you’re reading for the class or how the last exam went. You probably won’t make lifelong friends by doing this, but it can help you get comfortable talking to people. </p>
<p>Like others said, find a club that pertains to your nerdy interests. Seriously, there’s everything, especially at large schools. My current school isn’t huge (about 10,000) and even we have tons of nerdy clubs, like Russian culture, chess, medieval history, and so on. There’s even a club devoted to White Castle (a fast food restaurant for those who don’t know). You’ll definitely find some like-minded people in a club where everyone shares the same interest.</p>
<p>Also, give the extroverted, outgoing people a chance. Not all of them are idiots who are off getting wasted every night. Plenty of them care about the same things you do. Socializing with them can also be easier because there’s less pressure on you to initiate the conversation. And ultimately, you wouldn’t want them to judge you for being introverted, so don’t write them off because they happen to be outgoing.</p>
<p>Hey I am an introvert too and during my first semester of college, I was like having these thoughts of “would I be able to blend with others?”. Fortunately, I decided to join small club (art/fashion) and slowly I began to have few friends and knew some of the students and also professors. I also manage to sit in the middle row during classes and some extroverts student always seek my help in asking about courses and stuff. that pretty much help. now I am about to enter my senior year and it makes everything a lot easier.</p>
<p>It’s not that hard to make friends. Just be completely honest with yourself and other people. If you enjoyed being alone all the time (“introverted”), you wouldn’t have written so much about trying to make friends. The good news is it’s not that hard to make friends, and you don’t need a lot of friends (just a few good friends). I would avoid friending girls (if you’re a guy and vice versa) because it almost always ends up as a dating question, even though it might seen less impersonal and easier than making friends with other guys. All you have to do is talk to someone and show genuine interest, and if they talk to you back, well guess what? you got a buddy!</p>
<p>Purely for comic relief:
“The Fun of Making Friends”
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<p>I am a college freshman though il be in 2nd year in a month as on 11.5…anyway i live alone, walk around alone, sometimes eat alone too, and in class sit alone during lectures but during breaks or pre/post lectures i talk to everyone in my class infact the extroverts would be surprised at the number of people i talk to.and really if you talk to ppl it will in no way affect your studies.another way could be talking to your juniors,helping them out with anything because they will generally look for advice/help from a more experienced guy.so good luck :-)</p>
<p>Fellow introvert here! If you are feeling lonely or have trouble taking to other people, I suggest getting a job (if you are still able to manage your classes) I recently got one, and I will say, being in constant contact with your fellow co-workers and clients will do wonders for your communication skills. Also, the added workload will make you appreciate the weekend/extra time off, which (at least I my case) motivated me to hang out with friends.
If you don’t have friends to hang put with, atleast less of your time will be spent completely alone, and you may even like some of your coworkers and want to develop a relationship there.</p>
<p>Oh course this is just my view; in my case, I feel much more grounded and purposeful now that I have a job and can plan things around that instead of being bored or what have you…</p>
<p>Are you sure you don’t confuse the terms “introvert” and “shy”? 
I mean, many folks are having hard times communicating with really outgoing and lively people because they don’t want to be in their shadow. Anyways, I’m sure there are a lot of fellas of your idiosyncrasy, so don’t worry, you’ll be fine</p>
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