The process is much easier once you know what schools have accepted your daughter and you can narrow things down to the top two or three choices.
If it were me – and if I had plenty of money to spare – then I’d easily pay for Santa Clara or Loyola over SDSU – but I’d pick just about any UC over those privates. But you and your daughter have to figure out your own priorities and preferences. My point is that it isn’t just about the money, it’s also about qualitative differences in the schools and their offerings.