<p>People are always talking about how great college is and how it's suppose to be the best thing ever invented and the best time you'll have in your life...is anyone disagreeing with that thus far? I mean don't get me wrong college is pretty cool but I'm not really having too much fun. Maybe cause I haven't found my "niche" or wahtever it's called yet like I have friends, but not people I love being with day and night.</p>
<p>I'm not sure if I have a point. I just feel like I'm missing out on life cause I'm not loving college. I was so hyped up about it too, now it's like I'm not living up to my own expectations. Does anyone feel the same way or know if it takes some people a while to get to that college amazingness level? I'm scared I'll go through 4 years and still feelthis way.</p>
<p>Is this just your first semester? It probably is just because you haven't found your true, best friends and as you put it, your "niche", yet. I had much the same experience my first semester. Do you go home alot? That was my problem. I went home too much and didn't experience just being at college enough. Are you involved on campus? That is a good way to get to know people. I met alot of my now really good friends second semester through the organizations I joined. After meeting my friends, my college experience definitely turned around for the better. Have we been through ups and downs? Absolutely, but I wouldn't trade it (or them) for the world. I am now a junior and I have friends that I am sure will be my friends long after college is over. Just get to know people, and know that it does get better if you let it. Relax, get to know people, find an interesting hobby/organization/whatever, and enjoy.</p>
<p>yeah similar situation except i've got a lot of my good high school friends with me...it has been fun at times and is getting better but still hasn't lived up to the hype...i'm going to try to get more involved and meet some more people so i'll see what happens...a lot of people feel the same way as you</p>
<p>totally agree....although I feel like college is still better than high school as I was nobody in high school (just went back to my high school during break and it was depressing) and had only one or two true friends.</p>
<p>im optimistic though...im much more social than ive been before and have been feeling more comfortable everyday and i hope that after a year, ill feel like college has become wat everyone says it is.</p>
<p>Thanks, I think I just needed to know that I'm not the only one who isn't having a blast. I'm not a weird or antisocial person or anything but I'm starting to wonder if there's something wrong with me.</p>
<p>Yes this is my first semester and I don't go home except for breaks. I joined some clubs but I'm finding it hard to make actual friends in them. Usually I just see those people for the clubs. I also have friends from here and there and I wish they could all join together and I could have an actual group of friends instead of just random friends scattered around. </p>
<p>Anyway I shouldn't be complaining, I just always feel like something's missing.</p>
<p>If you wish your friends to all join together, have a party-gathering/go out to eat/etc and invite all of them. Let them meet each other and bam! friends all together in one place.</p>
<p>My first semester has been decidedly meh. There are some people that I talk to in class, but none of them have hit me as people I'd want to hang out with, so the only person I do stuff with is my friend from high school.</p>
<p>I've never been about "meeting people," though, so it doesn't really surprise or bother me. My girlfriend and a few of my close friends go to college about an hour and a half away, so I spend most of my weekends there.</p>
<p>My college experience has been similarly meh. I go to school in a large city without a campus so it's really hard to find people to connect with. I have friends but they're more "friends of convience" that I keep around so I'll have people to go to parties and blab about stuff with. I live in the dorming complex but everyone seems to just stay in their rooms so it's hard to meet, and everyone in my major kind of annoy me.</p>
<p>college is not supposed to be the best time of your life. in today's world, most college students are poor and over worked. college is the time to work your ass off so you can get a good job. the whole "party" scene is just an illusion.</p>
<p>You are not alone in your feelings. There are many students who feel lost and disconnected in college...this "college is the best 4 years of your life" is a load of crap. College is really a lot of pressure, both academically and socially.
Finding a group of friends can be challenging since you meet people here and there. Living in a dorm or house with other students keeps the pressure on to be social all the time. You don't really get your own space and are away from the people you love and the friends you have made in the past.</p>
<p>A lot of kids find the college years very challenging to get through. Personally, I think life gets much better when your in your late 20's to 30's.</p>
<p>if your not too big with the parties with alochol and stuff, then i mean it wont be so different from highschool. i still feel second semester senior year of high school was the best since no one gives a dam about school work, which is when you get to know everyone better. I feel there is a lot of academics pressure too in college, especially if you are premed.
Just dont get super hyped.
everything takes time, which means also friends you make in college.</p>
<p>I hate it when people repeat the "best years of your life" line. What are they saying, that life post-college won't ever reach the same level of enjoyment? That's sad. What about getting married? Raising a family? Those things don't compare to almighty college? Please.</p>
<p>i agree, the whole "college is the best years" is an illusion. Even my brother, who has good people skills and is sociable and was fairly popular in HS, had a tough time in college, doing poorly academically (at Berkeley) and not finding his niche until senior year.</p>
<p>So far, my social life hasnt been great either, but its still better than my first 2 years at community college. I tried joining some clubs, but I dropped alot of them since I didnt have the same passion/interest for the subject as the others in the club did. Was this a good idea? Are clubs open to welcome newcomers at the start of a new semester, say spring, or are they only yearly?</p>