<p>I will close with these remarks: </p>
<p>There is no real way to analyze this process and come up with a perfect location and perfect setting with the perfect mix of academics and social interests and perfect campus and perfect dorms.</p>
<p>We empathize. Been there and done that. More college tours than a butterfly had flowers to land upon. </p>
<p>At the end of the day, no college is perfect. Not one. There are “issues” at every college. Bureaucracy, arrogant and insensitive people, faculty, administrators, and dorm issues, food issues, this issue and that issue. </p>
<p>You generally will walk upon a campus and get a feel…a gut feel that this “is me” (and that may be a contrarian me…someone who embraces something different.). We hope that everyone chooses a college and knows its the right choice and never looks back. Statistically there are a small percentage (less than 5%) who make mistakes and know it almost immediately…and often can cite a reason: making a decision for the wrong reason (whatever that may have been for THEM). No college is a perfect fit for everyone. </p>
<p>Growth will happen, and change is not always easy or simple or comfortable. Fordham IS transformational.<br>
People choose colleges for a lot of funny reasons…and some do it to be close to home, to be close to high school friends, to be clones of mom and dad, to be searching for an ideal of some sort they envision in the clouds, to be running away from home, from friends at high school and so forth. A myriad of reasons. </p>
<p>For us (and it frankly surprised me the day it happened), it was walking on campus in April 2007 and my kid saying, "“This is me”…as strange as that sounded to us…we are not New Yorkers. There was last minute challenges and pangs of do I really want to go up north? It came down to two schools and it was not an easy decision. Tears flowed. But…she stuck with her statement made in April…and off she went. </p>
<p>Freshmen year was full of all sorts of drama, homesickness, culture shock, fear, physical illness, stress, hard work, tears…and a 2-3 “prayer meetings” we had with her in the hotel…about whether to endure and stick it out…and two very valuable and rewarding weekend retreats with campus ministry…fabulous. </p>
<p>Today, she is a PROUD Fordham Ram. </p>
<p>You will know it when you step on campus. You will know whether you fit there and can do well there. You will know if the people you see and talk with are people who will challenge you socially, personally, emotionally, academically…and help you transition to adulthood. </p>
<p>My kid loved her high school buddies…but really wanted something new and challenging. Some of it was a bit of nose thumbing at a certain school that waitlisted her (haahaa!) AND also at a former boyfriend she wanted to just forget about…yada yada…and some of it was knowing deep down she needed to grow and not just go do a repeat of high school with friends (at prestigious local schools…very high national rankings). </p>
<p>Is that you? Or are you a homebody? A homing pigeon? Risk averse? Or risk taker? Embrace challenge or hide from it? Like diversity or want clones? Want to learn and share and accept the fact YOU will change and grow and maybe come out the other side a lot different than when you entered? </p>
<p>Why are southern kids heading north and northern kids heading south? (or east going west and west coming east?) See above. </p>
<p>Good luck.</p>