<p>I live like 30 minutes away from my college without traffic, and 45min-1hr during rush hour, which is why I live in the dorms. </p>
<p>I didn't want to go to this school because it is not my kind of school (don't care about football/frat parties) but it is a pretty good school and I love all my classes and professors. I'm going here for mainly financial reasons. I also have made friends in class who I like, but most of them don't even live on campus so over the weekends I find myself with nothing to do. My roommate annoys me (but she's not a bad roommate) and hangs out with her boyfriend all the time, especially on weekends. </p>
<p>I just feel like I'm so much happier at home, where I can have fun with my family and my high school friends. My mom lived on the other side of the country for a while and she finally came back here so it is nice to have her more in my life now and see her more often. I'm sure I will make friends that live on campus in the future (never had a problem making friends) and I'm going to make the effort to join more clubs. I'm just particular about my friends and don't click with the girls on my floor :l</p>
<p>My son dorms at a school that’s an hour away if there’s no rush hour traffic. His roommates are a great bunch of guys, he has friends, and there’s always something to do at school. Yet, he comes home most weekends. I would prefer he stay, but I also understand he’s an introvert. He’s exhausted after being around so many people all week and needs to come home to recharge. In your case, I don’t think it’s a bad thing to go home on weekends for now, seeing as there isn’t much for you to do at school anyway. Eventually, you’ll find a group of friends you click with and then your trips home will be less frequent. </p>
<p>Whatever makes you happy and helps you adjust and do well in school is most important. However, I would say that perhaps trying to go home every other weekend may allow you to ease into to staying at school.</p>
<p>@sarainbow Same. But then again I miss my neighborhood and it’s proximity to the city (which equals tons of restaurants, sports, things to do, etc…). I hate staying on weekends in this cornfield I’m at and am hoping to transfer to the city next spring. OP, go home whenever you want if that makes you comfortable.</p>
<p>I think going home more often will only make your situation at school worse. It’s best to tackle the source of your unhappiness problem, whether that mean finding new friends to hang out with, or moving into another dormroom. College is too short to be unhappy.</p>
<p>I agree with the prior poster. While we don’t know the specific college, it’s generally the case that there’s a variety of people in each class. There must be some that you would be friends with, given the chance. Hardcore partiers are, of course, rather easy to meet (just go to the parties). Other people may take a little more time. If you keep leaving, it’s likely you’ll never get to know them. Down the road, after college, you’re going to want your own life, totally separate from your parents and high school. This is prep for that.</p>
<p>I agree with the prior poster. While we don’t know the specific college, it’s generally the case that there’s a variety of people in each class. There must be some that you would be friends with, given the chance. Hardcore partiers are, of course, rather easy to meet (just go to the parties). Other people may take a little more time. If you keep leaving, it’s likely you’ll never get to know them. Down the road, after college, you’re going to want your own life, totally separate from your parents and high school. This is prep for that.</p>
<p>If you want to go home then go home. Honestly it is up to you. It is your college experience and if you need to go home every weekend so be it. I went home every weekend my freshman year bc my roommate was crazy and I’m an introvert and after exhausting myself during the weekdays I needed some TLC. Plus home is where the laundry is free, your bed is comfy, and the food is good. I wouldn’t worry about what other people think. I now tend to stay on campus on weekends ( I live an hour away) only if there is something worth staying for. This past weekend was homecoming and I had a lot of activities to do. This weekend I’ll be heading home just because there isn’t much going on this weekend, and that’s okay! I like that you are trying to meet new people that is great. Just work on yourself and if you need to go home then do so. Don’t force yourself to stay if you are truly uncomfortable. However, if you decide to stay maybe try planning some activities. What helped me was my mom would come visit and take me out to lunch/dinner then take me food shopping and drop me back off at my dorm. Just seeing my mom was good enough and I could stay the rest of the weekend. Best of luck to you! </p>
<p>Thank you for your responses. Some of you think I am unhappy at college but I am not, infact I am now finding it REALLY convenient to live on campus. I’m just unhappy on weekends I spend here. I’m picky about my friends and can’t just fake liking people :l so I have lately been going home every weekend and am really happy with that. Most of my friends in college commute anyway so I don’t feel like I’m missing out to be honest.</p>
<p>My twins are freshman’s this year and both attend different schools about an hour from home. My son comes home about every three weeks to do laundry and so far has not spent one night at home. My daughter likes to come home more frequently depending on if she has events with her sorority or other things. Coming home is great for her as she gets laundry done, we cater to her, and she doesn’t have to share her room with anyone. I like it too as I miss them being away. We go shopping and do things like when she lived at home. Its also fun because she brings several dormmates home for the weekend. I get a chance to see who her new friends are and see the college family that she has created.</p>
OP, go home whenever you want if that makes you comfortable.</p>