<p>Today, in a tutorial, we had a class test. Basically afterwards everybody felt pretty overwhelmed and then so I went and asked my lecturer if she could ask us more questions during the tutorial so we could get a better idea of what's going on. I talked to some of my friends later about and they all agreed it would be better and we'd get a better idea, etc, and we were talking about how we miss high school</p>
<p>She got really defensive and then told me that it was at my own fault and it was my own study habits that were stopping me from achieving and that everybody else gets it so it's my fault.</p>
<p>Then she gathered everybody together, gave everybody a lecture about how this isn't high school anymore and she is not our mothers, and pretty much the underlying tone was a personal attack to me publicly.</p>
<p>Throughout the rest of the tutorial she was rude to me, demeaning, picking on me the most out of everybody, asked if I understood what she was saying, and when I said 'yes', she scoffed and said 'no you don't'.</p>
<p>So pretty much I was angry, but I still tried to put that out of the way and thank her for asking us more questions in the tutorial, which she actually did. And then she said to me that I can't just pinpoint every fault in the whole world and expect people to conform to me, rather I should look at my own faults.</p>
<p>All this from me asking her to ask us more questions in the tutorial to guide us along</p>
<p>Am I being unreasonable??? I DON'T UNDERSTAND!!!! I am furious and I can't stop thinking about it</p>
<p>What’s a college tutorial? I thought only high schools had tutorial.</p>
<p>Do not feel so bad. It takes all kinds to make this world. And you know what maybe that person is struggling with something real dreadful in her personal life for her to be so nasty to a student. Just give her the benefit of doubt and move on. </p>
<p>Just a suggestion, one more thing you can do is meet her during office hours and apologise, I don’t if that is the right word, or explain that you did not mean to question her teaching style, it is just that you need a little help and if she could suggest a way around that would help you learn better. I am suggesting this because you have the rest of semester to go and it would be better to even things out right now. I believe that most people are nice and it is the complications in their relationships that make them react like this. I wish you well and hope you put this behind and move on. This is important for your confidence and esteem. Be happy.</p>
<p>Education is not a passive thing. If you want to learn, go out and be proactive. The TAs are there to guide you, not feed you.</p>
<p>She kinda has a point (not saying her behavior is acceptable though). YOU have to be the one that goes out, ask questions, and, if you need to, contact the professor for help.</p>
<p>They will not hold your had like the teachers in highschool did.</p>
<p>She’s right, she’s not your mom. You are in college now, which generally means you are at the point in your education where you know the difference between what you understand and what you don’t. You need to figure this out on your own and take specific questions when you meet up with her. She’s a lecturer, not a teacher. Don’t forget that.</p>
<p>While she has no right to be rude to you, I’m not exactly sure what your feedback was. “Ask more questions” is kind of vague here, and I too am wondering why you didn’t simply ask the questions yourself if you wanted to know. Also, if you and your friends thought you had a better style, you could’ve started your own study group and did it your way.</p>
<p>Agree with all above posters about the “growing up” part but still there is nothing grown up or adult about being nasty and rude with a student asking for help. In my opinion, takes lot of courage to ask, even if it means coming across as “immature” to a lot of people. Not asking for help is “immature”, I would say. Part of growing up is figuring out what is politically correct way. But it is really not a big deal on “what kind of help” was asked for.</p>