<p>I'm not sure if I want to request to room with my friend if it will cause us to hate each other.</p>
<p>it's not true but you might wanna make sure you and your friend are compatible. sleeping time etc</p>
<p>I'm not going to say it will be true with all friends, but with my sister and the class following hers it certainly seemed that way. (Although probably the biggest trouble is when they rent apartments together)
When my sister and one of her good friends (since kindergarten) shared an apartment their sophomore year, things went sour. Conflicts with boyfriends/friends led to her leaving my sister to pay the rent alone for a month, not allowing enough time to find a new roommate.
Another situation was two good friends from the next year's class who had gone to the same school until senior year & attended the same college. They became dorm roommates... they started getting into fights all the time and while they are still friends, it's a little more tense.</p>
<p>It's likely that if you're spending a LOT of time with that person, you're going to have personality conflicts. Some find that if you have a roommate that you don't really hang out with all that often, you can tolerate each other.</p>
<p>I went with random roommates, mainly because I didn't/don't get along that great with the girls from my HS class who go to my school. My roommates and I have a minimal amount of stuff in common--one roommate also likes country music, the other's boyfriend is a hockey player and I like hockey. That is literally all we have in common between me and them. We're not on the verge of throwing punches, although recently I've thought about b/c one roommate has had a drastic change in her sleep pattern and keeps the lights on all night.</p>
<p>But some of my friends here at school are rooming with people they've been friends with for years and get along great. It can work out. There's a 50/50 chance of your longtime friend turned roommate remaining a great friend if you room together.</p>
<p>My best friend, who's a girl, found a roommate that's a really good friend of hers now. So no, it's not true.</p>
<p>my freshman roommate (about 7 years ago) is still one of my best friends. sometimes pairings work out great, others not so much. but its one of the best learning experiences you will have</p>
<p>I wouldn't use the word hate, but I'm sure that pretty much everyone at least gets annoyed with their roommates regardless of year. It's just one of those things that happens when you share such a small space because it's not always easy to adjust to accommodate other people's habits and schedules. Unless you have a roommate from hell, your attitude is the biggest factor in the whole roommate experience. You've just got to learn how to be flexible and not worry about the small stuff.</p>
<p>As for my first roommate...I lived on the Honors Engineering floor of my first dorm with someone I'd never met before painting the room a few weeks before move-in day. Even though we were completely different types of people, we got along fine while we lived together and never had any fights or arguments...but I haven't said a word to her since the day I moved into my new dorm (private rooms rock :D)...and don't have any interest in ever seeing or talking to her again. So yeah, there are also plenty of neutral situations like mine.</p>
<p>im staying with mine next year</p>
<p>I've heard people say that it's a bad idea to live with a friend because you'll end up annoying each other...though not necessarily actually hating each other. I never actually lived with a good friend, so I don't know.</p>
<p>My freshman year, my roommate and I kind of just silently co-existed. We didn't dislike each other (or at least, I didn't dislike her, I'm just assuming she didn't dislike me), and we didn't really speak to each other either. After that I moved into an apartment with people I sort of knew, which was a bit of a disaster, because the others all became very close friends, excluded me from everything they did, and then kicked me out at the end of the year, after making up some bulls**t reason to do it. So I guess it would be best to say don't live with an established group of friends unless you don't care about always being the odd one out, but we all knew each other equally well at the beginning, so I don't know.</p>
<p>Most people I know seem to get along well with their roommate. My school set up a system last summer for incoming freshman to talk to each other online, and if you found someone to room with you could request each other (if you didn't want to bother, you'd just be assigned someone random).</p>
<p>I met my roommate on there just a few days before the housing form deadline, and we decided to request each other, then we talked a bit more later in the summer before we arrived. We've never had any big problems, and really hardly any small problems either. If I wasn't going overseas next year, we'd probably be rooming with each other next year as well.</p>
<p>If you are thinking about rooming with a current friend, really think about if you can live with them. Recently we had to turn in housing applications for next year, and as people were talking to each other and trying to figure out who they wanted to room with among their friends, a few people said things like, "I love X to death, but I'd never be able to live with her." Sleeping patterns, varrying levels of neatness, your tolerance level for small annoyances (or what you consider annoyances)... All things that can play into how things work out with your roommate.</p>
<p>I can think of one, maybe two or three, people whom I would be willing to room with at college, one of them without even having to consider it. That is out of all my friends and aquintances. I would suggest thinking about the things you and your friend do fight about. If she annoys you to death by calling at 2am or always borrowing your stuff and not returning it, you might run into serious frustrations.</p>
<p>thinking about my freshman year...
these were the shared rooms on my floor (and 2 single rooms). all randomly assigned.</p>
<ol>
<li>super conservative girl paired with super liberal girl. did not get along at all, rarely in room at same time.</li>
<li>two girls that were attached at the hip for all 4 years.</li>
<li>two girls that were friendly in the room, but did not hang out in the same circles.</li>
<li>a quad, got along at first, but eventually disliked one another greatly.</li>
<li>a double, got along in the room, but did not hang out together outside room.</li>
<li>a triple- all three got along super, friends for all 4 years.</li>
<li>a double, best friends.</li>
<li>a double, really close friends.</li>
</ol>
<p>overall, a good job pairing people off. but then again, we got to fill out a 4 page questionnaire for roommate selection.</p>
<p>Well not the same as sharing a dorm for a semester, but for the last two weeks I've been roomates with my best friend, and lets just say its hell, we fight for the shower, the room temperature, sleep time etc,</p>
<p>Immaginary roomates take up no space and always step out of your way. John Nash must've had an interesting life...but if I was going to go insane and start imagning people, I'd rather imagine living with a hot and vulptorous woman instead of a deranged, possibly homosexual, gangly-tall man.</p>
<p>Ahh, freshman year. There is a good chance you will dislike your freshman roommate. Here is why. Most people lived in a house and had their own room through part of middle school and probably high school if they had siblings. You forget that you are an annoying person. Everyone is irritating. I'm real bad. The only people who could live with me were a narcissist, a guy with the WORST case of tourettes, and a bio major(i was chemistry at the time). I was lucky and had them all as roommates in my senior year, and i loved them all. But back to freshman year.</p>
<p>So everyone is annoying, and mostly everyone irritates everyone else in their freshman year because no one realizes how irritating they themselves are. You go from living in your own room, to being forced to live with a stranger (the nerve). You continue to do your "own thing" regardless. So do they. Your communications skills as a freshman are pretty bad (mine are only marginally better now that i am in grad school, my advisor gets annoyed if i don't communicate well). You get annoyed because they clip their toenails on the rug and want to watch the ballgame and you wanted to see something about the Wild Yak on discovery channel. They get annoyed at you because the Wild Yak is stupid and they have to livin a room with you that is probably only 40% larger than a jail cell. But, because everyone has terrible communication, no one talks about anything.</p>
<p>This is the good part. We will let this go on for a little over a month so by this time you both violently hate each other and have taken to sabotaging the other in your own personal little way. I hated one roommate i would set his clock an hour early so he would run out of the room to class "on time." But the end of the first semester most people are petitioning Resident Life for a roommate change due to irreconcilable differences. Res Life will say "No, just deal with it, you have an RA, talk to them." </p>
<p>By the end of your freshman year you hate this person so much (and don't forget, they hate you even more), BUT you have had 2 semesters worth of classes with people in your major. So you talked to people enough by this point that you know who shares a similar temperment about television, sleeping, studying, and grooming habits that you get a pick a good roommate sophomore year.</p>
<p>This is probably the worst case though. Once and a while two people are paired up who actually share a lot in common and they become good friends.</p>
<p>Now, on to the question about living with a friend. I'd say do it. If they are your friend, you probably have been on plenty of camping trips, sleepovers, or vacations to know how well you can tolerate someones habits. So if you have a friend, and you know you can deal with them, you should live with them. Your communication with them will be much better because there is always a common frame of reference to start what is otherwise an awkward conversation about why IKEA sells trash cans and the toenails need to go in them.</p>
<p>You won't definitly hate your college roomate. My roomate and I are good friends. My boyfriend's roomate is his closest male friend on campus. I know many other roomates that get along everywhere from well enough to being really close friends. </p>
<p>That said, I think it's better to room with someone you don't know/barely know (I met my roomate at the accepted students weekend and really clicked, so we requested each other, but we didn't know each other beyond that). Because, if your realtionship with someone evolves through being roomates, and you get along, it can really work. But rooming with someone you already know--especially in the first year when you are getting used to having a roomate-- can really change a realtionship.</p>
<p>The ones I knew who roomed together didn't fight, but they didn't make friends easily with the rest of the hall either. I think they missed out on meeting other people and feeling like part of the hall community.</p>
<p>By the way, I didn't know anyone at my college when I first went (I had friends who transferred in at junior year), so I had the random roommate. I was from a small Christian high school, she from 10 miles away at a large public school. Needless to say, I was in for quite an education that year. I was never her "best" friend, but we were friends. In fact, all the girls in my dorm were friends with their roommates--but not always the "best" friend.</p>