Is it wrong to use legacy to get into top schools?

You dad having gone to H may get your application a “second look.” Your grandpa having gone there means nothing. If you get into H it will not be only because of your legacy status. And even if it was, why do you have to sacrifice yourself? I haven’t heard of any hooked applicants who renounce their hook out of some sense of morality. The universities decide what is in their best interests. Best wishes to you!