Is my parent's money my money?

What you mentioned at the bottom is how my daughter financed her college expenses. At her first year, we managed to pay fully on our own (she went to a good, but inexpensive college in Canada). No loans at all outside the US there. Second year, she was in the states (homesick and too cold, although she loved it there) and I had saved some for her, her father paid some, and then I had also gotten one of those college savings plan (I used the Utah one for less fees). She also got a job–yes! And has been working since. A loan was taken out for $5500. Helps out a lot and I don’t have to scrounge as I had been doing before. A state school --much cheaper than a private one, helps immensely. I don’t want her to graduate with a big college debt on her hands–and so far its working.