I have been pursuing a power five D1 school that is a reach for me athletically. He has told me that he is interested and remained in contact until the summer. I sent him updates from Nationals and my training trip to which he did not respond to, and as it is getting late in the recruiting process for me (I’m a senior), I ended up calling him after about 2 months of silence. He was really nice and told me that while he was still interested but I wasn’t one of his top recruits, so if they didn’t fill up their two available spots in their first two official visit weekends, he would bring me out on a visit, and this past weekend was the second weekend.
After the first weekend, he reached out to me, asking if I was available the weekend of the 12-14. He told me this on September 24th. I told him that I had a conflict that weekend, but if that was the only date available, I would gladly prioritize the visit. He didn’t get back to me after that email so I called him this past Friday, the 28th, and it happened to be in the middle of his club practice, so he quickly told me that they did have more available dates, and that he would send them over to me. It is now October 2nd (4 days later) and he still hasn’t sent them to me. Am I just paranoid? I don’t know if I’m just impatient or rightly worried.
What are people’s thoughts on where I stand with this coach? Is he just saying he will offer me an official because he feels bad and doesn’t want to outright reject me? Because I feel like if he were really interested and considering bringing me out he would be more diligent about responding to my emails and getting back to me.
Also, should I text him? He told me once that the best way to reach him was by text or call. But I don’t know if I should be more patient and give it a few more days? This is the third time I have had to reach back out to him after he hasn’t responded to me, and I don’t want to be annoying and cause him to lose what little interest he has in me.
Getting really nervous about my future at this school.
It is so hard to understand where you are in the recruiting list if you aren’t a top recruit. I agree with you that if the coach was interested, he would be calling or at least following up with you.
You are not being annoying by contacting him as you need to know where you stand.
I would recommend texting or calling the coach as he recommended that form of communication. I would ask him if he has filled the 2 spots. If he hasn’t, ask him where you stand in his recruiting process. Try to pin him down to something specific like what number you are if he had to rank all the recruits. This will give you a much needed idea of your real chance at one of only 2 spots. Try to listen to exactly what he says and not what you want to hear.
The coaches want to keep as many recruits as possible interested just in case. But I don’t think this is fair to the recruits. You need to know so you can move on and find another great school where you will be just as happy!
Let’s face it, some coaches are excellent at communication, and some just aren’t. But, he has been honest with you that you aren’t a top recruit, so you need to be honest with yourself. Is this a school you would like to be at even if you do not get much playing time (or make the travel roster…whatever.)? Is scholarship money important? This could be a deciding factor for you as well.
Hi swimmom1922 thank you for your advice :)) I ended up going on an official visit to this school, but it turns out he actually bought my plane ticket knowing that the two spots were taken, meaning that he really did just bring me out because he felt bad. The whole visit was kind of just an unorganized mess, but at least I know now to focus my attention to other schools.
I do have other offers. One school that I liked is offering me more money, enough to easily be able to afford, and the other school that I loved is offering me less money, in which I would probably have to take out more than 60 K a year in loans. I am currently negotiating for more money with the second school, but I really don’t know if he will be able to make up for enough ground. Hoping for the best.
Thanks for the update! I am sorry that the visit was so unorganized! But like you said, at least you know now to focus on other schools. You are a stronger person for going through this.
