@dancelance, I agree with the other posters, you have to go with your gut. ^^^^^^^^ My eldest visited Yale and knew there was something that just didn’t fit. She also did not like the layout of the school. We tried to get a map to tour on our own because we got there late for tours and the young man at the door couldn’t get out of there fast enough.
We also had a very telling experience at a local sandwich shop, whereby the people, serving at the shop, appeared to be new. They were a little slow and disparaged by students who wanted to order their meals. My dd said, “If they are students at Yale, and they’re treating strangers with such disrespect, why would I ever want to go here?” Not saying this was a common occurrence, and I in no means want to generalize about all of the students at Yale, but it really impacted all of us.