<p>All of you gave such good advice and I really appreciate the different perspectives.</p>
<p>I think it has been the hardest to find financial safties. Colleges that might offer S merit aid that S actually wants to go to. I am trying to go through posts here to see what I can come up with. I think we can help pay for a UC education, we would have to think long and hard beyond that.</p>
<p>Younger S is a high school freshman. Older D is lost in life, moved out, working part time at a minimum wage job and going to community college part time (another long story for another thread).</p>