<p>I am planning out my sister's high school schedule while she is still in 7th grade. Her and my family are moving to an area with a MUCH better high school than the one I am graduating from this year, and it seems to have way more oppurtunity than was offered at mine. I guess I just want her to do even better than I did (I actually did pretty good with what was offered to me, but I wish I had known a lot more beforehand, I was just used to taking the accelerated track(s)). </p>
<p>She is extremely smart, and I know that she can get accepted into an amazing school if she keeps pushing herself as much as she is now. I'm not sure if I just wish I could replan my high school career from start to finish rather than just let things happen, or if I simply want to see her to do as well as possible. I'm not going to try to pressure her too much, I'd rather leave that to my parents lol, but I guess I would like to think of myself as her personal college counselor.</p>
<p>sometimes i wish i had a younger bro or something so i cld plan their school so they wouldnt do all the screw ups i did. after so much time in HS i feel like i know what i am doing ...
so yeah it normal and cheers for taking the interest</p>
<p>you're smart for doing this and she'll be smart to listen. if i had a little brother going through high school starting next year i could tell him exactly what to do, and graduate in 3 years like i wish i wouldve done while still taking all the classes he needs to take.</p>
<p>Go for it. A lot of us wish we had people that were closer to our age to keep us from making certain mistakes or falling into certain traps. As long as you explain your reasons for things instead of saying "Do this!" "Do that!" it's a good idea.</p>
<p>that's nice.
my brother (11) won't take anyone's advice. i made so many mistakes in middle school in prep for high school and he's already behind.. his life. whatever.</p>
<p>while your efforts are only meant to be helpful, the fact is that this is your SISTER'S life and she should be the one planning it (of course with guidance from you!). its easy to forget that our siblings have different interests and if you force her into a plan you have crafted she is likely to be miserable in it.</p>
<p>i appreciate your efforts and certainly wish that my older sibs had been helpful and responsible like you are, but the bottom line is that these are her decisions. if she is as smart as you say she's bound to make the right ones!</p>
<p>I can't believe everyone is congratulating him. Here is the truth: PLANNING OUT YOUR SISTER'S LIFE is insane and controlling. Let her choose what she wants to do with herself, making mistakes is part of the process. I can't believe you are even considering doing this.</p>
<p>I don't know. I wouldn't try to force her to do anything, because then she might wind up resenting you and actually do worse than she would've without your help. Just always be there with her and give her suggestions. And if anything, GET your parents into it.</p>
<p>I sometimes feel the same way as the OP, and I think it is caused by how I had so many regrets with respect to high school like picking the wrong courses. </p>
<p>You have to remember that she and you probably have different interests. Resist the temptation to control her. Let her make her own decisions.</p>
<p>I'm trying to make a schedule for college. It isn't working well, especially since I don't have room for my foreign language requirement and to give myself the opportunity for a Chem major, premed, and a double Econ+CS minor. This is obsessive.</p>
<p>OP, if your sister is at a new school, you dont know how hard it is or what the teachers are like. You may end up telling her to take classes she hates with teachers who are either bad or unnecessarily hard. It is best for her to talk to a current student at that high school with her similar interests.</p>
<p>I agree wtih Venkat89. Furthermore, since this new high school is much better, the higher-level classes are probably more difficult, so if you ask your sister to push herself too hard, you could do more damage than good.</p>
<p>It's very considerate of you to want to see your sister succeed and impart what you've learned, but I think it best to leave those decisions to herself. You can always give her advice based on your own high school experience, but she may not necessarily want the same experience.</p>
<p>Something to be careful of, if she make mistakes, isn't "perfect" you better be darn sure you don't act all disappointed and such</p>
<p>having pressure from parents, oneself is enough, but an older sibling just adds to the pile</p>
<p>If she says she doesn't want to take AP Calc, that should be just fine with you</p>
<p>You are not her parent, and while is is wonderful you want to help her, remember it is helping her ,suggestions, guidance...but she needs to figure out stuff for herself, then it will mean something</p>
<p>Ok well I slightly planned out my sister's courses too when she was about 13.
I thought she was sooo bright and intelligent... I thought she had a LOT more potential than me. I honestly thought she was HYPSM material. I had a late start in the college process so I wanted to give her the benefits of having an experienced, older sister - something I didn't have.</p>
<p>But time proved me wrong.
She stopped taking advice from me and started planning her own schedules and I respected her for that but...
She is a C average student (with an easy course schedule), no ECs, at the age of 16 :/ </p>
<p>My parents are wondering if she's going to be able to get in to any college. There's still time to improve but with the rate at sshe's going... (every moment I see her, she's talking on the phone - constantly changing people by call waiting, whilst txting with her cellphone in her hand). She's still a great sister though - just not academically inclined or motivated.</p>
<p>So... people change. Your sister is in 7th grade - plenty of time left for changes. But good luck :)</p>
<p>right now she's in 7th grade.....you can wait one more year before she goes to high school and you (if your not a senior) can make new friends and figure out what classes are good/bad and nice/mean teachers</p>
<p>While I'm a grown up now (at least in age -- maybe not in maturity!), I was the little sister you speak of decades ago. My sister was six years ahead of me in school and she herself was a PERFECT student. (No joke. She went to HYPSM.) I remember her trying to "help" me with a sixth grade paper, an eighth grade history paper, and attempting to "encourage" me to work harder. I always thought my mother put her up to it. It really backfired -- I'm smart, but I was never a PERFECT student like she was. I'm no slouch -- I wound up at a top 15 university myself -- but it truly took me decades to overcome the feeling that I wasn't good enough, smart enough, that I was second-rate. It wasn't until I went to graduate school and excelled that I realized I could handle academics just fine, thank you very much. And it wasn't until even years after that that I realized life isn't all about academics and that I actually excel in some areas of life far better than she does.</p>
<p>Life's an adventure that everyone should get to play out themselves. Tell your sister you'd love to make some suggestions for her, but let her decide whether to listen to you in the first place and then, whether to take your advice.</p>