<p>Thanks everyone. She thought it was kind of cool that I already went ahead and planned a tentative schedule, but obviously it could drastically change by the time she gets to high school. Plus I'll be in college too, kind of distant to help her with more than just a few things. </p>
<p>She already has said that she will probably end up taking all the hardest classes possible, so I'm hoping that doesn't change, but I'm not going to push it. And yes, I will definitely let her scope out what classes/activities she wants to do based on opinions from other people at her new school system. Thanks for all the opinions (both positive and negative lol). I'll try and keep myself from pressuring her too much, but if I had an older brother/sister, I would definitely be asking them for college advice!</p>
<p>i think you should help plan her schedule + encourage classes, but you shouldn<code>t push anything on her. don</code>t expect her to be valevictorian or anything, either, because if you keep pushing her to be something.. and if she somehow doesn<code>t become valevictorian, she</code>ll feel like a dissapointment.
so, just make sure you tell her when you<code>re proud of her, but don</code>t expect so much from her, to the point where your sister doesn<code>t even know if she</code>s working hard for herself or for you. i<code>ve been there.. and it</code>s hard.</p>
<p>You could drive her in completely the opposite direction you want her to go, depending on what kind of personality she has. Why don't you start out by asking her if she'd like that? And then why don't you go through the options with her and find out her opinion on things or discuss the options with her rather than stuffing your notions into her schedule or down her throat. To the extent that she "owns" the schedule that is put together more than or as much as you do is the extent to which she will probably not resent it later. Oh, and if I were you, I wouldn't make this a family project. I'd make this about you and her, something you do for her, not something you're showing to your family to prove how great you are to your little sister.</p>
<p>Having said all that I said, you are really sweet to think about her in this way. Sometimes we don't get the guidance we need at the time we need it.</p>
<p>it doesn't have to be obsessive, overbearing, or controlling. You're just helping out your sister. Obviously she has a final say--it's not like an older brother signs paperwork or checks homework.
You could easily make it obsessive, overbearing, or controlling. Watch out to make sure you're not trying to fix your own mistakes through her. You seem smart enough to avoid that though.</p>
<p>I am helping out my sister in the same way. I'm not controlling her or living through her--I want to be an English major and she's interested in computer science. I'm just helping her pick the best classes that will give her the most challenging academic experience and will let her get a taste of many different areas of study. I made some dumb course and extracurricular decisions in high school and I don't see anything wrong in warning my own sib about them</p>