<p>My roommate is a nice guy, but such a little **<strong><em>. He's always whining about the most trivial things to me, and for the most part, I'm really mellow, but he's starting to really get on my nerves. He's always *</em></strong><em>ing about something, and I feel like at some point, I'm gonna have to tell him to *</em>* the **** up. At the same time, I've met his parents, and they're really nice. And it seems like he's used to getting accommodated by his parents. But once again, really nice guy, but I just can't stand him, and that makes me feel a little bad (slightly). To add onto that, he's a total buzz-kill. I've already sent a letter to the dean to switch me at the end of the semester, and he said he'd see. His parents are nice people, so I don't want to get aggressive with their kid.</p>
<p>Oh, and before anyone labels me as some jock who's not accepting, I'm not. I'll live with anyone, as long as they're not nagging me as if we're in a relationship.</p>
<p>I feel like at some point, I'm gonna have to tell him to **** the **** up</p>
<p>well have you? If you haven't, you sound like the one who is being ridiculous. Sending a letter to the dean requesting a switch w/o making any attempts to improve the situation is absurd. Politely tell him you wish he would complain about **** to you less frequently and see what happens.</p>
<p>I've told him a few times to calm down, so that he gets the hint, but that isn't enough. I feel as if that's just his nature, and I'm not the person to change it. I'm way too lazy for that. And besides, if I do end up going all out, I'm gonna hurt his feelings, and I don't want to be portrayed as the bad guy in my hall.</p>
<p>also, my dorm doesnt allow alcohol, so i wouldnt mind moving out anyway...</p>
<p>Hoping he "gets the hint" isn't talking to him, so no wonder it isn't enough. You have a problem with your roommate; you need to sit down and actually directly tell him what it is. Otherwise, how is he supposed to know? Maybe he's just begun to think you're the person to vent to, and you're okay with it; it's not like you've indicated otherwise. Dang, aren't guys always the ones wanting girls to be more direct?</p>
<p>You don't need to try and change him, you need to do what i<em>wanna</em>be_Brown said, and gently tell him that his constant criticizing is starting to wear on you, and you'd appreciate it if he would stop vocalizing all these negative thoughts to you. You don't need to just blurt it out, either. Have a conversation working up to it or something.</p>
<p>Working together to solve a problem is not being aggressive. If he continues to whine, then yeah, you'll have a point, but you haven't even begun to address the problem.</p>
<p>Honestly, you seem like a jerk for whining to the dean about it, without even talking to him.</p>
<p>Mine do. You have to be 21, of course, and I think there are some rules about having it in the presence of minors, etc., but yeah, it's allowed.</p>
<p>I only think your reason is legitimate until AFTER you have talked to your roommate to tell him exactly what is bothering you. This seems to be the biggest problem in roommate relationships-the fact that people don't talk to their roommate until they are so fed up that they can't be civil whatsoever. Don't ask to switch your roommate until you have actually addressed the problem with your roommate in question. If he listens considerately, maybe he will change. If not, then at least it will be more of a mutual roommate switch instead of a sudden shocker</p>