<p>So lets say in a hypothetical situation</p>
<p>There is a girl who has been in a relationship for a few years. Would it be cheating if she lets a guy :</p>
<p>a) play with her hair
b) touch her leg / neck
c) put his arms around her (like couples at movie theaters)
d) have his arms around her waist</p>
<p>It depends on the girl. Some girls do this with pretty much every guy, while other girls behave this way exclusively with a romantic interest. I’d be more worried about the guy, because he obviously thinks he’s getting somewhere.</p>
<p>It depends on the relationship and how the individuals define crossing the line. Some people are more open, some people don’t care, some people would get upset.</p>
<p>Look at this way:
Don’t do anything…the hypothetical girl…wouldn’t want her SO doing.</p>
<p>I guess it depends on the context. If she’s good friends with the guy, and they’re just messing around in a totally platonic way, then it could be ok.</p>
<p>But let’s face it, it’s probably cheating. Especially a and b.</p>
<p>A and B really?</p>
<p>i’ve always thought that contact surface area is important. </p>
<p>also, B usually is coupled with C or D.</p>
<p>while it’s technically not cheating, it’s certainly not OK</p>
<p>If they’re really close then I don’t see a problem with it? I’m not really sure why any of my guy friends would be touching my neck, but as far as laying their legs on top of each other, that’s fine. Some times you just need a leg rest…</p>
<p>This is a promising topic. I’m just thrilled by the scientific analysis of physics of cheating ongoing here ;)</p>
<p>As for me, I think it depends on the situation, on the girl’s flirting behavior pattern and what kind of relationship this guy has with that girl.</p>
<p>Does the guy think its cheating? Does the girl know the guy thinks its cheating? If the answer is yes to both of those then it is cheating. Different couples/people have different levels of emotional/physical intimacy that they’re comfortable with their significant other engaging in with other people, and if two people have different opinions on that then they should not date. I know a girl that likes to go out and dance, and her boyfriend knows that and doesn’t care. And thats ok.</p>
<p>Besides, cheating isn’t really a physical thing when the girl is doing it, usually.</p>
<p>Ridiculous question.</p>
<p>i don’t understand how touching a girl’s hair / leg is more likely for her to be cheating than putting arm around her waist… hypothetically. </p>
<p>Also, what don’t you like about his question? you<em>of</em>eh.</p>
<p>It could be considered part of “emotional cheating.” Those are all pretty affectionate gestures.</p>
<p>Well lets see I’m kind of ■■■■■■■■ when it comes to explaining myself but I’ll give it a whirl…basically what you’re asking is what defines cheating. So say this hypothetical girl does let a guy play with her hair or whatever and the guy consults his trusty relationship rule handbook only to find that her actions do indeed fall into the category of cheating, so what does that mean? does he break up with her now? well why? Shouldn’t a guy and a girl be in a relationship because they love each other and not because each of them are obeying the “rules” of a relationship. So say this young lad A is really uptight or whatever and he eventually no longer loves this girl because she is always letting other fine young gentlemen play with her hair and such, so the guy breaks up with the girl. The reason he broke up with her is because he wasn’t in love with the girl anymore. Say guy B of a completely different relationship isn’t bothered by his girlfriends flirtatiousness lol with other guys, therefore remains in the relationship. What I’m trying to say here is that the definition shouldn’t and doesn’t matter because these types of behaviors are interpreted and thus reacted upon differently from person to person. With this question you’re suggesting that a relationship should be based on rules and definitions, which is why I thought it was ridiculous.</p>
<p>In all honesty, If your asking then you know you’re doing something wrong. (Or should I say ‘this girl’) Personally I wouldn’t care about A. but B. C. and D. would definitely tick me off. Either way, the post above is right in that it varies person to person, however, if you have to ask then you know something is wrong and you’re just seeking some type of approval.</p>
<p>I don’t get it - why would this hypothetical girl even want to do these things with other guys if she likes her boyfriend? Maybe this would be a sign that she doesn’t really like him much?</p>
<p>If the hypothetical girl is doing as described then she is in a stage of her life called growing up. Sometimes when things grow they get stronger and sometimes they grow apart. In any case growth is necessary for life. Cheating or not cheating is a concept better left to the hearts involved, but hearts have a way of being broken several times before they truly understand the concept.</p>
<p>Here’s the foolproof way to know whether A, B, C or D is cheating or not: The girl should ask herself, “Would I be doing this if my boyfriend were in the room?” If the answer is No, then it’s cheating.</p>
<p>I don’t think it’s cheating. I have this guy friend who’s girlfriend is back home, and he dances with girls at parties cuz it would be more awkward for him not to, and when he’s walking with me or my roommate, he grabs our hand, but it’s more in a friendly and social way than a romantic way, and it’s not like it goes any further than that.</p>
<p>thermo1 stop groping the freshmen girls you tutor in physics 101</p>
<p>It depends, what is he touching her leg with?</p>
<p>To be honest, several of the girls at my old school did all those things and worse, they did’t really class it as cheating, but it really messed up their boyfriends.</p>