Is this immoral?

Applying to College
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<p>So... I decided a while ago that I had five top schools. I was rejected from two of them, got into two of them, and was wait listed to the remaining one. </p>

<p>The two I got into -Tufts and Barnard - are both kind of similar in that they're in cities, and have atmospheres of little LACs with resources of a larger school . But, I'm starting to think Tufts wouldnt be the right place for me, and Barnard confuses me -- I absolutely love some things about it but I feel like its reputation isnt stellar, theres a weird columbia-barnard dynamic, and even though I know it would be easy to meet guys bc of the location, columbia connection Im still not sure about going to an all girls school</p>

<p>Thus I'm going to stay on the wait list of the remaining school, Wesleyan. My counselor asked if he could say it was my first choice. he also stressed that i should say this in my letter, if its true. the fact is- I really don't know right now!</p>

<p>I'm just really confused at the moment. But, I'd definately like to try to get in because I very well might end up going there, and I would definately go there if they give me good FA because Tufts and Barnard gave me none, even though nearly every other school I was admitted to gave me $5-12 K. </p>

<p>So is it immoral to say its my first choice - even if I'm not actually quite sure, and might not end up going there? Its definitely ONE of my top choices, prob either 1st or 2nd behind barnard , and would be first if I got good FA..</p>

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<p>Yes, and I think you know it..</p>

<p>Tell your first choice it's your first choice. Don't tell your second choice anything. Problem solved.</p>

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<p>Go to Tufts</p>

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<p>coming from an all boys high school, i can tell you that single sex education is a shock in the beginning, but eventually you get used to it. plus with the connections between barnard and columbia and nyc, i think you should be happy. barnard's own reputation around here is very good.</p>

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<p>Try to skate around first-choice. Express your desire to attend and mention that if you get in you will definately attend(assuming you will) but don't say "you're my first choice" if its not true.</p>

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<p>It is very refreshing to see someone who has a conscious! I agree with Daniel. You can write your letter telling them how much you like the school without mentioning it is your first choice. Include some info about yourself other than what you put in your application. I'm sure admissions is used to getting letters from people who say "it's my first choice" anyway. Good luck!</p>