Is This Inappropriate?

No-- he hasn’t done anything inappropriate. He hasn’t threatened you or propositioned you or touched you inappropriately, at least not from what you’ve told us.

But his actions are making you uncomfortable. It may just be that he sees so much potential in you that he wants to mentor you. It may be that his personality is more outgoing than you’re comfortable with. It may be that your comfort zone is a little too small and that you need to be aware of other personality types.

But I’ll repeat: you’re a smart kid, and your instincts tell you that something here is not right. PLEASE trust your instincts. Speak to a guidance counselor about how best to proceed-- that will alert someone in school to this issue. And do not, under any circumstances, be alone with this teacher.

What do your parents say?? They should be aware of this as well. Not to “get him fired” or even to “report him” just to know that it’s bothering you.

Everything @bjkmom says.

If it’s nothing, it’s nothing – so much the better. But so often something like this is part of a pattern, and it is only when people start to speak out that the pattern emerges. And if there is no pattern, and it’s just a matter of managing your interactions, that’s good too.

Just be really clear and careful in describing the behavior. Neither exaggerate nor underplay. Just the facts, and your feelings about the facts.

And good luck sorting it out.

Consider printing up your posts here and bringing with you when you see your guidance counselor.

I would trust your instincts. I would talk to someone about it.

Not to be a nag, but did you speak to your guidance counselor?

@bjkmom Not yet, she been out of her office a lot lately and it’s been a busy week. If this teacher does these type of things the next time I see him then I will. He doesn’t actively seek me out.

I would suggest making an appointment with her either way. Don’t wait for the next time, make her aware of the issue now.

You were concerned enough to start this thread. Trust your gut.

This guy could lose his job over what may be just trying to encourage a strong student… I completely agree with reporting inappropriate behavior, but I just don’t see it here. I take a different view – I would not go to the GC with this.