<p>I'm really struggling with the decision to transfer from my current college. I have loved my college for as long as I can remember, I remember visiting in 4th grade. Now I am here I am bored out of my mind, and very lonely. I am a sophomore, so its not just getting adjusted as a freshman. I thought I had life figured out, and I knew what I wanted, but I don't know anymore. Im wondering if this is it. College, I mean. Ive been here for a year, and I have made 2 friends. Which, I cant even make friends on my own. They are friends by association. I don't really enjoy being around them. I'm trying and trying to make friends on my own, but it doesn't work. I'm too much of a loser to transfer, I'm too scared. I had to declare my major, which I like in theory, but not the actual classes. Im a failure at life. I dont know what to do anymore. Is life downhill from here? Is this life? Going to class, making bad grades because I am stupid, try to do homework I don't understand, then wake up in the morning and repeat?</p>
<p>Wait...let's see. </p>
<p>"I am bored out of my mind, and very lonely."
"I’ve been here for a year, and I have made 2 friends."
"I don't really enjoy being around them."
"I had to declare my major, which I like in theory, but not the actual classes."
"I’m a failure at life."</p>
<p>Your last sentence is so pathetic I won't repeat it for fear of reducing you to suicide.
ok, outside perspective here - TRANSFER. you hate your college, have no friends, don't like your major, feel like you're going nowhere...dude, you're what, 19, 20? You think you're life is downhill and miserable? change it before it's too late!
if you don't have problems with money or any other situation like that, find a different college you like that fits your interests. TRANSFER. If you don't, then maybe you ARE a loser like you said. But don't be! Make yourself happy!</p>
<p>theaterbrat, I see things quite differently from the above poster.</p>
<p>I hear, in your post, someone who is really down. Possibly suffering from depression. Which can be treated. Please please stop over at your school's health/counseling services. Talk over your feelings. Accept the help they can offer. </p>
<p>If, after you get some help for the depressed feelings you are experiencing, you still think transferring is a good idea... then you can think about that. But not until you've addressed your state of mind, first. </p>
<p>You have time. Transfer apps are largely due in March. Spend the time to help yourself feel better now.</p>
<p>I hope you will not be reluctant to go over to the health or counseling center. I am pulling for you. Come back and tell us how it goes.</p>
<p>Anybody who scored 740 CR on the SAT I is highly intelligent. Your past posts suggest that you are also an extraordinarily motivated, creative individual. I think that submitting a transfer application or two may be a good idea. Single sex colleges are not the real world, and I think that you will be much more comfortable & energized in a different, larger, co-ed environment with a wider variety of people. Have you considered applying to NYU? Another option that may be a perfect match for you is Skidmore College in Saratoga Springs, New York. An interesting option to consider is Vassar College. But I think that you will be very pleasantly surprised if you visit Skidmore College. All three schools--NYU, Vassar & Skidmore--can easily be visited on the same trip. It will change your life. Northwestern University also is an option, but it is unusually competitive to get into the Theatre major.</p>
<p>P.S. Post #2 above is an unfairly harsh post.</p>
<p>P.P.S. A trip to NYC with your parents to see shows might be a good idea to get refocused on your passion.</p>
<p>I apologize if my post above was unecessarily harsh. I'm not gonna go as far as to say you're actually depressed, because only a therapist/psychologist/doctor could tell you that. But you sound miserable and I feel bad for anyone in your position so my advice once again is transfer, find a school you actually like and a major you actually like. There's no reason to subject yourself to misery for what are supposed to be (although I don't believe this personally) the best 4 years of your life. If you don't think you deserve to be happy, stay where you are. Otherwise, transferring is probably a good idea. Your whole outlook on life could change at a different college where you're happy and have friends. </p>
<p>Once again, sorry if this is harsh, but you asked for advice and from an outside perspective, the best thing to do might simply be to transfer out!</p>
<p>You need to turn that loneliness into motivation, stay positive, get your grades up and transfer to where you want to go. I agree especially with the one statement from the guy above, if you got a 740 on your CR on the SAT I you aren't stupid, you just aren't trying hard enough. So put in that hard work, get to the school you want to and be happy again.</p>
<p>I think you may have me mixed up with someone, I never made a 740 on the SAT. The highest I have made was a 690 on the CR, and a 390 on the math and writing sections. I can't concentrate at all, I try to study, and end up staring off into space. I would like to be a drama major, but my job prospects would be even worse than with an arts management degree.</p>
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Is this a recent problem, or something you've had for a while now? Are you possibly ADD? I'm not saying that to be mean, but if you managed almost a 700 on the CR but only a 390 on Writing...that's unusual...you're obviously not dumb but maybe you're having trouble concentrating for some other reason?</p>
<p>Before you consider transferring, keep in mind that maybe your current feelings are a product of your disposition in general rather than the school you're at. Transferring doesn't solve all of your ills. In fact, it can be even more difficult to make friends as most other people already have their own social niche, and you may be sorely disappointed with the academics at your new institution. Perhaps you should look into therapy or medication first.</p>
<p>I got the 740 CR figure from one of your earlier posts; I may have misread your post. A 690 CR is still the score of a highly intelligent person. The 740 CR figure came from your post on 10/29/05 which states that you scored a 740 CR, 700 Writing & 390 Math. Regardless, Skidmore College is a school that offers both of your interests, is co-ed & is located in a charming resort town with lots of restaurants & entertainment in a gorgeous area of New York. It is fairly easy to get to New York City for a weekend, as well.</p>
<p>I was tested for a learning disability in elementary school, and it just showed I was stupid. I've tried to talk to people about getting tested here again, but since my college is so small, they do not offer that service. One of the problems with transferring is, my major is so rare, it is one of maybe 5 undergraduate programs in NC, and only my general ED courses would transfer.</p>