<p>My D has just started a new annoying behavior. She is having "buyer's remorse." Her college decision was so very hard to make, and she really had to weigh out her options. She was very happy with her decision ... until last night! Now she is second-guessing things. I got so mad at her last night. Nothing I said made any difference ... everything was met with obstinance (I think that's a word!). I finally told her that if she really thinks she might transfer after a year, I don't even want to hear about it. This one will be all hers ... I won't be involved. I already earned too many gray hairs in the college planning process. I went to bed & just stared at the ceiling ... I thought all of this was over!</p>
<p>I got up this morning & wrote her a letter addressing her concerns, letting her know that with every choice we make ... there are things we give up associated with the choices we pass on. Few things in life are perfect ... we have to understand that our choices are very often "best" choices ... there are other excellent ones, but we must make only one. If we chose wisely (as I believe she did in this case), we will be happy. I wrote a two-page, very well thought out, intelligent, compassionate, "you'll be fine," letter. There was no way she would have listened to it, so I tried to reach her that way. I slipped it under her door. </p>
<p>She seems to be in much better spirits today. Let's hope it lasts!</p>