<p>Mary, that is perfect!!! </p>
<p>When my D was younger, a very wise teacher told me that I should be pleased she was such a pain to me ... she said that it meant my D felt I loved her so unconditionally that she could vent all her frustrations on me & I would still love her. I don't care whether or not that's true ... I have held on to that comment & remembered it every time my D blames life's injustices on ME. It does help me to feel better! </p>
<p>But I still can't help telling my DH --- on a somewhat regular basis ---that I wasn't meant to be the mother of teenagers!!</p>